Coworkers inviting themselves to my wedding

You don't have to invite your coworkers at all, but if you do you must invite their spouses.

You do not need to invite any co-workers. However, if you do, their significant others must also be invited.

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You don't invite them...If you wouldn't spend time socially with them regularly, they don't need an invite. However, if you do invite them, you do need to also invite their husbands.

to get out of inviting just say we are having a very intimate wedding with a small guest list of very close friends and family then stop mentioning the wedding around them.

If you do invite your coworkers, you have to invite their husbands. But you definitely don't have to invite them. I hang out with my coworkers outside of work, but my venue allows 140, and with family, close friends and vendors, we're at 130. It just doesn't make sense for us to include them. Just stop talking about the wedding if you currently do. If they mention it again, just say you are having an intimate family wedding.

You do not have to invite anyone you don't want to! Although I know it is awkward when some people assume they are invited and then end up not being, and you have to see them everyday after that. I've had co-workers say the same type of things to me. We put our work friends on the "B" list. I know having a B list is controversial, but we'd rather see how many close friends/family can't come before we pay for people from work. So, I'm not giving them a Save the Date and will decide in a few months whether or not to give them a formal invitation.

You don't have to invite them; it's totally fine to keep your work life and social life separate. But if you do, then their spouses come.

I had a few at my wedding. I am friends with literally none of them now.

You do not have to invite them. If you don't hang out with them outside of the office, there's no need to invite them, and no reason to feel bad about it.

If you decide to invite them, then you need to include their significant others. Whether they are married, engaged, or a boyfriend/girlfriend of 2 months - they need to be invited.

You don't have to. I am inviting my boss and one of my coworker with their spouses.

P.S. I work for a 90,000 employee company.

Don't invite your coworkers if you don't want to. Don't further discuss your wedding at work.

If you chose to invite co workers you absolutely have to invite their SOs/ spouses.

I have had the same issue at work... even having one girl ask to be a bridesmaid! I can't believe the nerve of some ppl! I just try to refrain from bringing up my wedding at all usually Bc the less they know the better. I also made it clear that I am having a very intimate wedding and it will be mostly family. Good luck!

It's tough if they're actively bringing it up. If you can accommodate 8 people then no stress there. If you can't for financial, space or just don't want them there id be honest. They've actively said I can't wait for my invite so not to have that conversation I think is harsh. Just be honest and let them know you're having an intimate affair or you have a space limit etc

I'm not inviting any coworkers. We all are very close and work together but like you we all have our own lives out side of work. A number of people have gotten married in the last year and I don't think anyone at the office attended the weddings other than the bride her self. If someone would like to bake for you that is awesome. but don't feel you have to invite them. I have baked for many weddings of people I knew but never once thought boy I want to go to that wedding.

You absolutely dont need to invite them but if you do you need to invite their spouses.

I'm inviting a few coworkers and that's primarily because 1.) I spend time with them outside of work and 2.) FH and I met at work and these particular coworkers have seen the whole relationship from the start. There are some coworkers who didn't even know we were dating. If they are just coworkers to you then no invite but if your day would be missing something without them then invite

I'm inviting some coworkers that I talk to everyday. I put on the save the dates, as I will with the invites that they can all bring a plus 1

If you mention that it's an intimate wedding, I'm sure they'll get the hint. But I agree that if you invite them, SO's need to be invited too. Good luck!

I am having the same problem where I work. I tried to tell co-workers nicely that with the amount of family invited we did not have many invites left for friends. My co-workers did not accept this answer, so I went home to my Fiancee for advice. We came up with the plan of doing "late-night invites", so that co-workers could at least come dance and drink. I told my co-workers about what I thought was the solution to all my invite woes, but was called a b****. Sometimes there isn't a win, if you don't want them there don't invite them.

Amber, that was super rude of you. Unfortunately you owe them an apology. Inviting people to only part of the event just makes them feel like second rate guests. It's called a tiered wedding and it's against all etiquette.

If you don't spend time with your coworkers outside of work, there is no reason at all to invite them. You can gracefully let them know that your venue does not allow more than X# people and you are already at capacity.