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Amers
Savvy February 2020

Coworker Invitation Etiquette

Amers, on September 16, 2019 at 10:22 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 6

Hey guys!

My fiance and I are getting married in February, so I'm just finishing up my invitation list. We both have divorced parents and gigantic families, so I'm already maxed out on how many people we can invite. I'm to the point where I've put past college roommates on my B list (and I lived with them for two years in 2017 and 2018). I've had numerous coworkers ask what date it is so they can plan vacations. I didn't have intentions of inviting any of my coworkers, (even the closest few) just to avoid drama. I'm not sure how to let them know that I have limited space and that they aren't getting invites. Quite honestly, I don't like seeing them at work, let alone at my wedding. I just don't know the polite way of going about this. There are about 20 individuals plus spouses that would have to be invited and I just don't have the room. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

6 Comments

Latest activity by Sherry, on September 16, 2019 at 2:56 PM
  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    I would simply say something like “while I would love to invite everyone we come from large families and are limited on the number of people we can invite”. Keep it simple. It’s your day and you can invite who you want.
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  • Sara
    Super October 2019
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    Exactly this - something like "we'd love to invite more people like our coworkers, but we need to keep our guestlist from growing too large, so unfortunately we won't be able to" should be enough to gently let people know that you're not expanding your invites to that circle of people.

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  • N
    Master January 2015
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    Agree with PP's! We had originally planned on inviting our coworkers, but we just don't have the space. The more we thought about it, the more we didn't really like the idea of inviting people out of obligation to the biggest day of our lives, especially when we've never seen these people outside of the office.

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I think what you said is good already - you've limited space and have a giant family. People will understand that
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    You're not obligated to invite all your coworkers, so don't feel bad for letting them know you can't invite them all!

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  • Sherry
    Master September 2019
    Sherry ·
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    Just tell them that it will be an intimate wedding with family only but you hope that you can celebrate with them after.

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