Covid19 my October wedding!!!

What are they saying about postponing? for instance, are they offering you dates but you can't make those dates? or are they just not wanting to postpone?

I am so sorry your dealing with this! No bride should ever deal with this!!!! Are they giving you other date options or not??

View Quoted Comment They said that they couldn’t, and then I talked to the owner and she didn’t budge. I started crying on the phone because my dress is being designed in California and it won’t be ready in time. She said they’d postpone but only to March. I’m just confused why they are not being flexible when the contract doesn’t have anything about postponements and March seems like pulled out of nowhere.

View Quoted Comment They said they wouldn’t. And they didn’t offer any dates until I cried and then she said maybe she could see if they could postpone but if they did it wouldn’t be until March and she was really rude. I don’t even know how to work with them when they have no compassion for people in these hard times.

Are You Trying To Postpone Because Of The Virus? I Think Its A Little Early To Decide On That Since Your Wedding Is In October. Mine Is To But Im Not Worried. Your Venue Should Help You Reschedule For A Later Date If its Not Clearly Stated In The Contract That They Wont. Goodluck!

Ugh what a mess. First off, I’m so sorry you’re having such a difficult time, especially when you’re planning for what’s supposed to be the happiest day of your life. They may have picked March because it’s a slow time for them and they won’t have as many events. October, November and even sometimes December can be super busy event wise. Best wishes xx

View Quoted Comment I have been out of a job for two weeks and can’t keep up with my payments and my dress won’t be coming on time. They should be rescheduling since it’s not even in the contract to not be able too but they aren’t being understanding! It’s so sad because I loved this venue SO much

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! Literally the worst experience, I’m sure they picked March because of that. It’s going to be cold and our wedding is outdoors. Most of my bridesmaids are in the industry and I don’t want to put the pressure of them finding a dress and affording the bachelorette with no job right now. It’s really been so stressful!! I appreciate everyone reaching out😭💜💜

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Im Sorry You Gotta Go Through This. I Hope They Will Accommodate You .

View Quoted Comment Me too!!! The 1840s plaza was our dream spot. I’m thinking a destination wedding if everything falls through :/

Hey girl!

I want to start off by saying, I completely understand your frustration! It's frustrating for all people who are getting married right now. We are in August, and even if things are considered 'safe' by the CDC by then, we are still strongly considering postponing just due to the amount of people who would be traveling in.

That being said...lots of vendors are losing tons of money right now too. While it is devestating to you to postpone etc., many vendors and venues are losing an excruciatingly large amount of money with COVID-19. Basically, when you pay your deposits etc you are having vendors save your date and block it off from anyone else booking it. If you just move your date, they are losing out on the full amount that would have been paid on that date when they could have booked another wedding that would not have postponed.

I would instead, work with them to figure out a payment plan that works for both of you and continue on the path to have your October wedding. To give you some idea, many venues are not even talking to July/August brides to postpone yet because there is no data to show the virus will still be rampant around then. Right now, they are focusing on April/May and early June brides who would need to reschedule.

I would wait it out until it gets closer, work on them for a payment plan, and ask what the options are if the CDC continues bans on gatherings of more than X amount of people into October. Be advised though, that MANY vendors will charge a rebooking fee to hold your rescheduled date. If that is the route you are going ,I would consider looking into what those fees may be for each vendor.

Hope that helps!

Best,

Megan

Yeah I totally get that, I still want to pay our balance in full. And I know our date could go to a spring or summer bride who have to cancel. I’m not sure if you know but the state of Virginia isn’t lifting the quarantine until June 10th. And they aren’t showing the curve of the rise in cases completely decreasing until August. I wish there was someone who could promise a vaccine in the next month or so but even when there is the FDA will have to approve it. This is stressful for everyone. I’d rather give them the other half of the money and transfer our date then cancel and they not only have to find someone in these hard times to want to spend the 10 grand to get married, then cancel and they then have an open date and they owe us 5 grand. It makes no sense as to why they wouldn’t want to work with us.

I just went through something very similar with my venue. I ended up totally canceling with them because I didn't want to work with someone who does not care about humanity. Our wedding is mid-May (so like...not out of the woods out all) and they told me it would be "ridiculous to cancel" and that they really didn't have any other date options. I've seen so many businesses (big and small) make great adjustments and accommodations during this time and it is so sad to see wedding vendors being so awful.