Covid weddings

10/10/2020 in Missouri. We have no restrictions here so we have kept pushing forward. I’ve been concerned because numbers have been going up, especially in our county. We’ve told everyone the wedding will go on and we haven’t received any negative feedback. Everyone says they are looking forward to it. I’ve watched as
Most of my invited guest have gone on vacations to hot spots, thrown parties, and attended the packed local fairs. They aren’t one bit concerned.

We’re still having our wedding on 9/12/20. We have a limit of fifty and other restrictions for our reception- mask when guests aren’t seated, seating by family/household (as best as possible), served buffet, etc. We haven’t really had backlash, but there are some guests we know are waiting to rsvp closer to because they want to see how things are going. Right note we have 30 attending, 17 pending, we’ll see. Even if it’s just us and our kids, we’re getting married on 9/12.

I am keeping my September 12th date. The only backlash I've had is my aunt calling me selfish. I told her we are having a 50 people wedding, social distancing, and handing out masks. She said I was a terrible person for wanting to get married. I told her we have waited 5 years and have already postponed 3 times. We just want to get married and I told just not to come if I'm so selfish.

View Quoted Comment You can’t please everyone. Your are absolutely not selfish, nobody is forcing your guest to show up. We have waited 5 years as well and have no intention of postponing. Just finished college, moved, started my business, and fiancé started his career so I’m not just going to put my life on hold for something that won’t end anytime soon. If people can’t understand that then they are the selfish ones.

We are full steam ahead with our 10/10 date and actually we were kinda hoping for some rejections and everyone has said they are coming and looking forward to it. Additionally, everyone invited (except our parents) are essential workers and have been working without a break since this all started so what I've learned from everyone our wedding is a great reason to stop and take a break.

I've also let everyone know that there are definitely no hard feelings if they opt out because of Covid.

We are still moving forward with our 8/22 wedding in Ohio. 15 days!!! So far nothing super negative, just a few concerned guests. People have asked what precautions we are taking. I have made it pretty known since then that we are following all recommendations and that people are able to decline if they feel necessary. We have 78 confirmed which is only 50% of our venue capacity so it worked well. I would lie if I said I wasn’t a little nervous though.

At this point we’re still on for our November 21st wedding but my fiancé has now started voicing the potential for postponing the reception portion. He said we will need to know what the venue expects by mid-September...which is right around when we’re supposed to send our invitations.


My moh has been not subtly pushing for me to postpone for months. His one groomsman bowed out yesterday after a month of radio silence. I’m fairly sure at least one family one my mom’s side and my brother won’t be there.
I’m sick to my stomach and have a migraine from the stress. I want to cry and throw up and just feel like there was no point in planning anything.

Thank you everyone. This has really gave me hope. I been seeing a lot of people talking about they are postponing and it made me nervous. I live in Indiana, right next to Chicago where most his family will be coming from and with a lot of people still pending on rsvps. I have reached out to everyone I haven’t heard from: some said no, some said yes, and some actually ignored me! So I’m freaking out needless to say. I’m getting married 9/1/2020 in Las Vegas and then my reception will be back home on 9/19/2020. I just wish people would answer and stop leaving me hanging. I rather someone tell me no then wait to the last possible minute to say hey I decided I don’t think it’s safe enough to go. And 1 thing I learned is the people don’t care about you as much as you think they do & you would be surprised who actually wants to be in your corner.

We're going ahead with out September 19th wedding in TN. We have a couple family members that are iffy about traveling, but most have decided to drive rather than fly and are still coming. We've had one person talk negatively about it, but he's one of those people that always like to be contrary and stir the pot. I was super stressed for a while about people not coming, but finally got passed that when I realized that come wedding day I'm not going to care about anything other than getting married to my bestfriend

Moving forward with next Friday, August 14th. We were originally supposed to get married in May. We haven’t had backlash, just a few guests back out at the last minute. I wish they had declined a few weeks ago, since now we have already paid for them to be there, but oh well. My motto has become “It is what it is.”
The people who are coming are very excited. We have about 140 guests in a space for 300 with outdoor space in addition to that. Masks are required for guests at our church ceremony. I honestly am looking forward to it but I can’t wait for it to be over. I absolutely could not have the wedding hanging over my head for another year or more.

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I'd try really hard not to take the responses as "people don't care about you as much as you think they do." In the best of circumstances (aka pre-Covid) I've hated it when people respond to posts on this forum with "people who love you will be there no matter what!" I think that is potentially incorrect and likely very hurtful. Even under "normal" circumstances someone can truly love the couple and just not be able to afford to attend/get the time off/whatever. Especially in our current world, things are just so unpredictable. The path of the virus is literally changing on a daily basis and numerous authorities are specifically pointing to the Midwest as the next "hotspot." Please, please for your own benefit try to see that people are having to make difficult choices about their and their loved ones health and safety that in no way reflect on how they feel about you. This is a terrible time and I feel bad for you and all the other brides/couples whose weddings are being affected, but try not to take peoples' actions as a reflection of how they feel about you. Yes, it's incredibly stressful, but I'm sure your family and friends love you even if they decide they cannot attend. Good luck!

9/26/20 for me, and it is my original date. We haven't had any backlash, at least not to my face. My mother, who is generally a negative person to begin with, has admitted to my friends that she just wants me to be able to get married! I did include a note in our invitations that said we wanted people to take precautions/ if they don't feel comfortable enough to come, to do what they feel like is in their best interests. So far though, I think there are family members who wouldn't miss it, but I don't doubt there will be some who don't come either! I'm generally only keeping the thought that I'm getting married to my best friend, and that's all that matters. We can always have a bigger party at a later date!

We are also in Indiana, but just north of Indianapolis. We are moving forward with our 10/31 date. We haven’t had “pushback” as much as a few judgemental passive aggressive questions about it. I 100% understand their concerns...I do, but their insinuating that we aren’t putting a lot of thought into this is hurtful. We have scaled back our guest list, and we will have a virtual option. Yes we will be doing everything we can (social distancing, masks, hand sanitizer. I’m even going to the venue next month to get measurements so I can finalize the floor plan). Even with that, if people don’t feel safe attending, we understand. I have my sister’s boyfriend on Zoom duty.

I Am Keeping Our Date Of October 17th In VA With Our Original Guest Count Of 60 People. Masks Will Be Required.