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Jenn M
Dedicated January 2021

Covid Wedding Caution

Jenn M, on November 22, 2020 at 10:52 PM Posted in Planning 0 13
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I’ve postponed my wedding twice now and just cancelled my new date. We attended a wedding this past weekend with 125 people present. The ballroom was HUGE, it’s usual capacity is 800 and the dance floor was equally as huge. Tables were square and very spaced out; I was at least 6 feet away from the couple next to us. But then the music starts and the drinks are flowing and for a few hours, everyone forgets COVID exists. 2 days later, the bride and groom both positive. Me and my fiancé as well and others from the bridal party and family.


I spent months saying “once I go to this wedding I’ll feel better about my wedding”. This wedding showed me that I can have my wedding but until this mess is over, I don’t want it. This decision was heartbreaking even more than the decision to postpone. But, I didn’t cry this time, because as heartbreaking as it is, it’s not nearly as heartbreaking as the thought of risking my family, my grandma and my friends to have a party.
I realized what’s important here is getting married regardless of how, when or where. My fiancé and I are going to have a small ceremony with just our parents and we are very excited about it. We hope to plan an event in a year or so when this mess is all gone and we can safely celebrate.
I know there are many brides who did the same thing, but I know there are many brides who are still on the fence.
I’m here to caution those brides who are on the fence. Take it from someone who got COVID from attending a wedding and now realizing how irresponsible it was to attend the wedding; we knew what we were risking.
I also want to wish those brides who do move forward all the very best. However, by accepting the risk, please understand your responsibility as an event host to let ALL your guests know if you or any guest in attendance tests positive after attending. This particular bride and groom chose only to tell their bridal party and immediate family and asked everyone not to share; which In my opinion was wrong. I ended up telling a close friend who was in attendance and they ended up testing positive. I understand the concern on perception but, we all have to do our part in trying to minimize the spread.

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Latest activity by Jenn M, on November 28, 2020 at 9:59 AM
  • Rebecca
    Rockstar August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    I'm sorry you got sick.

    Please take care of yourself and keep us updated.

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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    Oh wow so sorry about that. I wish i could elope but Fh is set on having his parents present who are in their 70s.
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    Get well and goodluck with everything

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Hope you are starting to feel better! Keep us posted on your progress.
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  • Jodie
    Dedicated April 2021
    Jodie ·
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    I applaud and thank you for your post. Most importantly, I hope that you and all of those that tested positive feel better soon and have a smooth recovery. I too have already postponed twice and am currently trying to figure out plan c. I know that this doesn’t happen to the majority but my perception is altered as I work in a hospital and see covid at its worst. I applaud your honestly and realization regarding a big wedding and the risk it possesses. I know every bride is stressed and thinking they are doing the right things by distancing and cutting guest lists and hand sanitizer and masks and such, but you hit the nail on the head with the comments regarding alcohol and everyone letting loose. As a society we are all so desperate for some normalcy at this time and unfortunately it’s pretty easy for everyone to let their guard down at these celebratory events. Again I hope and pray that you feel better soon and wish you all the best!
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  • Jessica
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    We are requiring all guests to have a negative Covid test within three days of the event. We have instructed them that we will require proof before admittance to the wedding ceremony our wedding planner is taking care of that. We aren’t rescheduling for anything but we are being cautious.
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  • T
    Super April 2021
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    I just want to (gently) point out that if all of these tests came back positive 2 days after the wedding, then it is unlikely that the wedding was where those people picked it up. At 2 days after exposure, there is unlikely to be enough viral load present to show up on a test.

    Is it possible that all of these people were presymptomatic and spread to other people at the wedding? Yes, of course. But the B+G and whoever else was positive 2 days after the wedding did not get it there.

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  • Amanda
    VIP December 2020
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    THANK YOU!!

    This is exactly the point, it matters what people are doing 14 days PRIOR to the wedding as to a positive Covid from the wedding. IF guests started testing positive 7-14 days later than there is a better chance they caught it at the wedding.

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  • Jenn M
    Dedicated January 2021
    Jenn M ·
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    Sorry, let me add more detail. I think I missed a piece in my initial post. I don’t think the B&G contracted it at the wedding, but I do think they played a part in spreading as I do believe they were contagious at the wedding. 2 days later they started having symptoms and tested on the 3rd day. Most of us and just now getting symptoms (5-7 days later) and testing positive. I didn’t mean to confuse anyone, we didn’t all test positive immediately after the wedding.
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    I absolutely agree with Jodie's post! Could not have said it better myself. Thank you so much for sharing your experience, and I wish you and your fiance a speedy recovery!

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  • Natalie
    Dedicated January 2022
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    You are absolutely making the right choice! Sorry that happened to you. Personally I felt a huge sense of relief when I rescheduled my wedding to 2022.

    Also it's kind of evil of the bride and groom to not say anything! Studies say up to 70% of people with COVID are asymptomatic (like the friend you told who had no idea). How many guests who went to this wedding are unknowingly infected? How many are talking to their grandparents, aunts/uncles, friends with pre-existing conditions, just spreading this virus to everyone and thinking the wedding was fine?? People could die. The couple is being super irresponsible, probably because they're afraid of their wedding going viral (more viral than it already has).

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  • Jacquelene
    Dedicated October 2021
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    We got engaged last year June and hit the ground RUNNING with planning for our October 2021 wedding. I'm a corporate coordinator, so planning is my thing. By this time last year, we'd booked our venue, dj, photographer and videographer. As of now, we also have our florist, baker, HOTEL ROOM BLOCKS and my dress and veil done.

    But now....I'm REALLY worried about COVID. I've had to self-quarantine since March (Grave's disease - it sucks). My fiancé has a lot of family coming from the mid-west. Our guest list is currently at 150+.

    Since the second COVID wave hit, I've had very little interest in planning. I'm kinda worried this thing won't happen. I mean we could still do a micro-wedding if COVID is still rampant; our venue has done a great job of reinventing how to still get married and distance. But I just don't know...

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  • Jenn M
    Dedicated January 2021
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    I completely understand! My wedding was in May, I had all my vendors set by November. The struggle of having to move all my vendors twice was hell! We’ve spent so much extra money on 2 postponements printing new invites, getting my bridesmaid gifts redone, parents gifts, new cake toppers (everything had a date). But, we’ve opted for a minimony (10 people) with a live stream and dinner after. For us, it’s the safest option. I’m not willing to put my 90 y/o grandma in a room with 100+ ppl on the middle of a pandemic. The marriage is what’s important here, the wedding reception, although cheerful and fun, is just a party, a party that can happen later. It wasn’t until I got COVID from attending a wedding that I realized what’s important here. One of the guests who also got it, now has pneumonia! Our situation might be very different from yours. You have to do what is best for you and your fiancé. I know it sucks, it really does. I wish you all the very best!! Either way, your day will be beautiful I am sure ❤️
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