Covid, Wedding and baby planning

Omg I’m 34 and feel the exact same way. I just waited a year to get married this Sept to start having a family and I’m not sure if I can wait another year. If I want the wedding of my dreams I have to wait. If I want to start a family sooner I may do a small ceremony this year and if I get pregnant I can still do a reception next year or don’t have one at all. I don’t want to be pregnant at my ceremony in my dress either. All my family would have to travel out of state but if it’s a small ceremony outside or enough room apart they would feel comfortable and make it work. Alot of people have been doing zooms for those that can’t attend or don’t feel comfortable. Maybe you can still do a small ceremony instead of City Hall just in case?

Hi, Lourdes!

I'm here to offer up a little warm fuzzies (hopefully) about having babies a bit later, assuming you're concerned about the giant flashing neon sign that is portrayed for new mothers of "Advanced Maternal Age" ::insert ominous music here:: and the health risks associated for both you and baby.

I'm getting married next fall (I'm going out of the country in a month and won't be back until next spring) and will be 35 at that time. I had never planned to have kiddos, but recent developments have drastically changed my viewpoint, so I did a lot of research into health risks associated with carrying a child over 35. A lot of the research I suggested stated that although there is an increase in risk after age 35, it isn't an immediate and exponential increase. That said, although there is something to be said for being aware of that, it shouldn't be an end all be all for you. I hope at the very least that gives you a little peace. It certainly did for me!

With all THAT being said, if you were worried about that, it is suggested in several articles I read (I'll try to track down the links, if you're interested!) to perhaps have eggs frozen for later use, IF you feel comfortable doing that (emotionally, financially or otherwise). Just a thought, there!

If that ISN'T your main concern, then apologies for my ramblings, and I'd suggest perhaps having a small ceremony with a contingency for a virtual viewing (like Denise suggested) for your out-of-town or higher risk guests, especially considering the uncertainty of risks associated going forward. That is being offered by our venue next year, and I jumped on that, just to have a safe alternative and still have the option to have a ceremony with whoever was safe to travel and/or could make the event.

I hope this helps! Cheers, and congratulations on your engagement!

Oh! Also! If you don't want to do a city hall wedding, look into Microweddings. Similar to an elopement, but with a few more guests... That might be helpful if you're looking for a venue that can cater to your unique situation without have to sacrifice the feel of a "real" ceremony!

Hi, Lourdes! I can see how this is stressful for you and I sympathize for brides in this position.

I agree with the previous poster. My FH and I are having an outdoor micro-wedding ceremony with our nice outfits/dresses and we plan on live streaming this for the guests we had originally invited. You could have a few guests and speak to your florist and photographer and make it really nice

We are postponing the big reception for a year. If you do the same or even push it a little farther out, you could possibly get pregnant and give birth before your reception. If you did vow renewals at your reception (we plan on doing this), your future children could be involved in this, which is really sweet!

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Thank you, Laurin! This really helps put things into perspective. I hadn't heard of a micro wedding and was also getting anxious about spending money on the dress of my dreams to have only a few people there. So many darn things to battle right now! Thank you for your support!

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Hi Denise! Thank you for the idea of an outside ceremony. I hadn't thought of that either. I was hoping to do a small dinner after the ceremony and maybe we can set it up where we are 6 feet apart. SO many obstacles thanks to COVID but we definitely can't let it keep us down!

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Hi Demetra! Thank you for your support! I have been going back and forth for weeks to try and land on something that would feel right. I hadn't heard of a 'micro-wedding' so I'm going to look into that because that might solve the problem! Are you doing it at a park or home backyard?

View Quoted Comment Hey Lourdes! We found a few options, but we are leaning towards a restaurant in the with a gazebo. If you search for parks with gazebos or for venues that have outdoor ceremony spaces, they may be able to accommodate you I hope this helps! I’m sure whatever you decide will be great 😊

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Perfect, thank you so much again! Enjoy your special day!!

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No problem at all! That's what we're all here for! Enjoy your special day as well