Covid Strikes Again

I’m just super sad and needed to vent in a place where I know other brides understand.


Our original date was planned for November 7, 2020. Due to some personal reasons, mostly my medical, we had a civil ceremony on September 18th of this year so we could be legally married, with the plan to continue with our small, Covid safe ceremony in November. However, we live in New Mexico and cases are on the rise here. Our state already had the highest restrictions of all states and US territories. Gatherings of 10 or less had been allowed but our venue had still been hosting weddings and we were hopeful for November. Then the cases began to rise again and the governor put our gatherings back down to no more than five people. She made it very clear that things will be enforced and fines will be handed out.
My husband is military so he could definitely get into trouble if he were to get a citation. It’s not a risk we were willing to take. So we discussed it and thought about moving the ceremony to our dating anniversary in January. All of our vendors were able to accommodate that date but when I called our venue she said that they don’t usually book events for January or February because it’s too cold. It’s really not that cold here in January but ok. She said if I insisted on that date she supposed she could let us have it but made it clear she wasn’t happy about it.
After discussing it further, the virus will probably still be going strong by then and I don’t see our state being open to large gatherings any time soon. We made the difficult decision today to push the ceremony out to next September 18th, on our one year anniversary. I’m just super sad. All of that planning and we were so close to have to reset for almost an entire year. Our loved ones are excited for our ceremony regardless. They’ve said they’ll definitely be there. 2020 has caused a lot of things like this to happen so I know what we are doing isn’t necessarily unusual l, given the times. It also means that people who weren’t originally going to be able to attend will probably be able to now. I’m just still sad about it.