covid "second Wedding" plans

For most couples here, they’re doing a small (elopement or immediate family only) ceremony in 2020 and a bigger reception or vow renewal later. Uh, no. The bride should not be asking for 2 bridal showers and 2 bachelorette parties. That’s rude.


Honestly, many couples here are even postponing or scaling back their pre-wedding parties because of the financial hardships so many people are experiencing due to job loss. It’s sad but I think brides really need to reconsider expensive or out-out-town bachelorette parties (although the bride shouldn’t throw her own anyway. Her friends or family does. All invitees should be asked individually about their budget range first).

...I should also add, when I say "small" the bride wants 50 people this year (the max allowed) at the wedding, with a bachelorette party and bridal shower of 15 people.

I would go to one and decline the other, if she ends up doing them.

I think having two weddings (a small as allowed and another big one later) is what a lot of people are doing. I haven’t seen anyone want to do two pre-weddings event that’s a lot especially considering how expensive participating in those events can be.
I’d understand the bride getting married now and then wanting to do a shower and bachelorette party after she’s actually married if she can’t do them right now, but not do two unless she’s paying for everything in the second one and not asking for gifts but I doubt that’s the case.
I would also just attend one event if she does both and invites you to both.

We're doing a very small (10-15 people) wedding and then having most of what we had planned for this year, next year. My bridal shower will probably still happen this year, because it's supposed to be before the wedding, not the party. I think it's okay to move bachelor/ette parties to next year for practical reasons, but it doesn't make sense to do it twice. If the bride also wants one this year, it should be VERY small, like going out to dinner with a few people or having a pre-wedding spa day or something.

I will be having a small wedding this year and a bigger wedding next year. I'm not having a bridal shower or bachelorette party etc. until the big wedding next year. No need to have two in my mind🤷🏽‍♀️ the first round will only be my mom, mother-in-law and sisters-in-law due to COVID-19.

Most people who are having two “weddings” are doing so because they want to get legally married but are unable to have any form of reception or celebration with loved ones along with it. If they are able to have a dinner, etc., it’s only a handful of immediate family or friends. By continuing to have all these gatherings and pre-wedding celebrations twice, it seems like she is mostly worried about doubling her fun and gifts, not the health of everyone involved. While this response may not be popular, it sounds like she’s being quite selfish and milking COVID for all it’s worth!