Covid safety drama venting and stressed

Oops. I wrote a novel but I’m so distraught. I just want everyone to be happy and safe and feel relaxed.


We got engaged 3 weeks before Covid. I wanted a short engagement so we decided to just work within our states restrictions to have a small backyard wedding. We have 26 guests and it will be outside on Oct. 24. I have bottles of hand sanitizer for each guest and a box of disposable masks to have available. I’ll have a sign requiring masks inside (to use the bathroom and get food). We’re using compostable dishes so we won’t have to deal with dirty cups and silverware. And encourage social distancing with additional signage.
My fiancé’s sister is getting married 2 weeks before us. She has been planning her wedding for over a year so we were aware when we set the date and thought 2 weeks with Covid was standard safety. We really wanted a wedding near Halloween. She is having a fairly large outdoor wedding at a big farm. His family is probably a 4-5 on the covid safety scale. They know it’s real and that it’s serious, but at a family event would likely let their guard down. I have family and friends we invited who are 8-10 on the safety scale.
My SIL (also the MOH) voiced concern yesterday about his family attending our wedding 2 weeks after his sister’s. She says we have to require testing for every guest or they should uninvited or we need to postpone. She also said we need to require masks be worn at all times except eating. And I just sat on the couch and cried about it. I want people to be safe. I don’t want to be policing masks at my wedding. My fiancé says she crossed a line telling me what we need to do and suggesting we uninvite his family or postpone. He says we’re doing what we can by keeping it small, outdoors, and having masks available and if anyone is that uncomfortable they should not come and we’ll understand. That we shouldn’t be asked to bend over backwards and meet her conditions for our wedding. I’m just so stressed out I don’t even want to deal with it. I do understand her concerns. We aren’t going to require testing and we do know if his family feels sick or knows they’ve been exposed they will get tested (I understand asymptomatic cases are concerning). I wish everyone had the same safety precautions or there were better statewide restrictions in place (I’m in Georgia).