Covid positive guest

The other thing you can do is send a message to everyone of your guests and just say or reiterate the fact that if you’re feeling sick or if you’ve been exposed to someone else with Covid or if you’ve even been anywhere that’s a hotspot then keep yourselves safe and for the safety of other guests, you ask they don’t attend

I would start out by checking on them, completely unrelated to the wedding. Just text them and say “hey, I heard you weren’t feeling well, hope you’re okay!” Hopefully that opens up a dialogue and they’ll voluntarily tell you that they tested positive. If not, I would say something like, “unfortunately, our venue asks that we not have any guests displaying symptoms of the virus. I hope you understand and we hope to celebrate with you once you’re feeling better!”

Can you explain the "still bartends"?


Anyway, I have dealt with this before. I have a high risk family member, and a friend of mine told me that another friend had the flu but was still planning to come to my house for spring break. I texted the friend and just point blank asked her if she had the flu. When she said yes, I explained to her that she could not be at my home until she was 100% certain she was not contagious. She totally understood, and it was all fine.
Some politeness has to go out the window during these times. I have no problem with you asking guests if they are covid +. You could even say you're checking in with everyone.
I'll be reminding guests at my event not to come if they have had any covid symptom in the past week and checking fevers at the door. I don't care if it annoys some people, I have to protect my loved ones

View Quoted Comment By “still bartends” I mean that she has a full time job at a dental office and her boss told her to be off until she gets better but she has a bartending job that she’s been still working at while having covid. So my thoughts on that was that she doesn’t care? You know what I mean? Like she doesn’t find a big deal in it so she still works so that how I’m feeling she’s dealing with my wedding.
But it’s a very good idea to say I’m reaching out to everyone. Because I have to give my numbers out to all my vendors by tomorrow and if I need to lessen that number I’d rather know sooner then later. Plus I have a few people too who are at high risk and I don’t want to risk that. I’d feel absolutely horrible

View Quoted Comment Yeah that’s pretty simple. I’m just afraid that if she’s still bartending and being out by people that she just simply doesn’t care and that’s how she’d feel about coming to my wedding. But I will definitely text her now and fingers crossed she tells the truth!!!

If she is still working (bartending) then she is most likely asymptomatic and not showing symptoms. You have learned of this after the fact (how long ago didn’t she actually get the test?) and your wedding is two weeks away. I’d check in with her as a friend to see if she is ok, but the chances of her exposing other guests at your wedding are small as she would be past the 14 day waiting period.

View Quoted Comment Oh yikes. No no no. I like others suggestion of saying that you are reaching out to everyone and insisting that anyone who has come in contact with someone who is COVID positive in the last 2 weeks or has any flu-like symptoms should stay home. Because yeah, if she is still bartending, I would assume she is not taking this seriously.

This is NOT ok. If this person is acutely ill and still bartending, that's terrible. I would have no qualms about uninviting her to the wedding if it's true. Agree you need to call her and ask straight up. I wouldn't cover with some BS about you're asking everyone. I would say "I heard you were COVID positive..." This is a life-and-death illness and you can't afford to skirt around the issue. Anyone planning to have a wedding right now needs to just be blunt with guests and ask them all flat-out if they have the illness or symptoms of it. Even if they're asymptomatic, they can pass it to others who likely won't be asymptomatic.

I agree with Elizabeth. I'm a straight to the point type of person. If I heard one of my friend's tested positive before my wedding, I'd straight out ask and then uninvite them. Safety of all your guests is what's most important, and this isn't just a little cold. I honestly wouldn't even be friends with someone who was careless enough to still go to work after testing positive.

Oh my...so she has no problem exposing people ?? Ru sure everything os true and shes not recovered and she’s actually be careless ? I’m just wondering how you found out. I would like to think someone wouldn’t be that careless BUT if you know they are I would even even be polite just straight up tell her she can’t come.

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That’s is awful to hear that she is bartending after having a positive covid diagnosis....I’m saddened and upset to hear this. I would have no issue saying I am very sorry, but with your exposure, I can’t risk others health. On a side note, There was an small outbreak in China a coupleish weeks ago, maybe a bit longer, where it was taking 3 weeks to infect others in the families. I realize this is an isolated incident and in China but it just shows that the virus is a bit unpredictable.

That’s probably gonna be an awkward but necessary situation. They probably are planning not to attend anyway but just havent reached out yet. So you could start by asking a different question about the wedding, and see if they bring it up themself

Technically as long as its been 10 days since ur positive result u no longer need to quarantine and are ok to enter society(this is coming from cdc)
a lot of people are asymptomatic and can spread the virus so asking people to stay home if theyre sick is always good but will not completely eliminate the threat

Yikes. The thing is she actually will probably be fine in 2 weeks, most people aren't sick that long. You could check in with her, see how she's feeling, and then maybe in a week or so if she says she is feeling better you can ask if she is willing to get tested again to make sure she is negative before she attends your wedding. You can also reiterate to all guests that if they are feeling at all under the weather to please not attend.

Oh, my goodness! If what you've been told is true, this woman is behaving extremely irresponsibly. While she is positive she should be in quarantine and there is absolutely NO way she should be working in a high-contact job, like as a bartender.... Her behavior is incredibly risky to others -- whether she has symptoms or not she can be infecting anyone and everyone she comes in contact with. Personally, I'd have a hard time remaining friends with a person who so blatantly was disregarding others' well-being. I'd call her, ask if it's true that she is positive. If she is, I'd ask her not to attend. I know the CDC just today announced new "10-day guidelines," but they've been wrong before and there are people who are testing positive for much longer periods of time (daughter oversees her company's Covid testing and she's had young/healthy people who have had positive results for 3-4 weeks...). I would not risk exposing your family and friends. Honestly, someone should call the local health department and report her.... I'm so sorry!

Yea, if she's bartending she's flouting public safety and not being considerate of others and I would feel very concerned with having that person at my wedding. Also infections last various amounts of time and have varying symptoms depending on person, so while it's likely the infection will have passed in two weeks there is no guarantee she will have cleared the virus by your wedding. I'm not sure of the best way to approach it, but if she tested positive I wouldn't want her at the wedding until she had a confirmed negative test. Since that's not really public information so you'd need to rely on your friend's honesty, which seems questionable based on the fact that's she's doing a high contact job like bartending even with a positive diagnosis.