covid number restrictions - do we cut guest list or uninvite guests?

Is it common where you live to send invitations so early? I would delay sending them if possible. If you can't delay then I would definitely send them to a reduced list and add people later if the restrictions are lifted. Learn from ALL of the other brides and grooms here who went through this headache last year. Do whatever you have to do to avoid uninviting people you have already invited. You have some warning and some cautionary tales to go by, take advantage of those.

I don't think "uninviting" is the way to go. I would send your must haves first and either as you get No's send an invite for someone who couldn't make the first list. . .not really a B list, but kinda only bc of COVID restrictions. And have the others ready to send as soon as the restriction is lifted. I hope you are able to invite your full guest list all at the same time.

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We didn't send save the dates and RSVPs will be back by 1 November 2021 (6 weeks out) so realistically I think we need to have invitations back by at least mid-September.

We would be cutting my grandmother's friends from the list so in theory, if we were to B-list them, they wouldn't know about it, though that wouldn't be the case for the other people cut. I know how horrible it is to B list people so I'm just trying to figure out which is the lesser of the two evils.

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I'm not a fan of B listing in general. But "B Listing" because COVID restrictions will be put in place and you don't want to have to uninvite people later, is a completely different scenario. Holding back some invitations to rescinding invitations is definitely the lesser of two evils during a pandemic.

Invites should not go out before 6 weeks, because the information will be lost and forgotten if sent earlier. If you don’t send save the date postcards, you let them know via phone call as the older generations did. Wait until much closer to send invites but make a list of your must have guests regardless of who they are and cut out people invited out of obligation. Sometimes friends are more supportive than family. Focus on that list and wait to see what the restrictions are in your area.

I think if I were in your situation, as unpleasant as it is, I would start working on cutting my guest list now, just to be prepared in case there are restrictions in place when it is time to send invites.

I would do anything you can to avoid uninviting people. Good luck, it's tough.

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I really like this idea!

I think in these times having an A list and a B list is a necessary evil.

Certainly, there can't be any harm in sitting down and deciding who you want to prioritise based on possible restriction levels.

View Quoted Comment I completely agree with this advice.

Unfortunately a record of who has been vaccinated won't help the restrictions, and in any case, where we live, the preferred vaccine is only available for people 40+ so we ourselves can't even get tested yet.

The app looks neat though! Congratulations to you for developing such a nifty app.

Definitely shave down the guest list instead of uninviting people, then just explain that you have to have a smaller, more intimate gathering due to Covid restrictions. People will understand! I had to go through a Similar guest list overhaul; my first draft was 248 people, once Covid came into the picture, I had to shave it down to 100 total people, INCLUDING me and my fiance! People totally understand and not one person has complained or felt offended, especially with a clear, apologetic explanation.

I added a note to our website right off the bat that says the guest list may be limited due to Covid restrictions; hoping that no matter what happened people would feel informed. I like the idea of an A and B list in this situation, though. It's so hard to be a bride right now!