Covid: How to make 2 weddings special

If it were me I would probably wear a different dress to my city hall wedding. You should definitely not wait to change your name, enjoy being married! Your big reception will be special just becaue it'll be you with all of your friends and family celebrating for the first time

I am not making our first ceremony extremely extravagant. Fake flowers and ivory curtain thats going to be stapled to wood outside. Couple of tiki candles and string lighting. Wearing a super simple ivory dress and cute sandals. Small grocery store cake. It will be nothing like my reception in September (Hopefully) which will be even more than it was before COVID.


We are now looking at getting a band and just really celebrating with family and friends. We are going to need it.

I definitely want both our weddings to feel special in their own unique way. I love how our civil wedding will be super intimate with only our parents and brothers there. I’m going to wear a different dress and have a bouquet different from the one I chose for our big wedding. We also hired our photographer to capture that day because even though it’ll be small, it’s the day where we’ll actually be married and I want to remember it.

I am trying to get FH to agree to have just he and I, or my dad/stepmom & us get married( in FL for that one)
My dad has an aggressive cancer and I want to be married before he passes.
But FH is like “one or the other!” And I don’t think that’s fair!! HE ( Bc if his 23yo daughters bitch7ng) postponed it from LAST September to this one. Now he wants to push it back yet another year!!!! My heart can’t take that!
I would do a simple, long, dress & hair/makeup for a courthouse ceremony. I’d also NOT change my name then( most likely) & wait for the BIG wedding- as in 200+ people... our wedding is supposed to be September 19th at Turning Stone in Verona NY( upstate NY)... that happens to be a casino so it’s going to be one of the last places to open up☹️

I want to get married, but not tell ANYONE. Is that wrong if me?

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I agree on the dress! I'm way too excited about my dress to not dance in it! lol

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Love that idea. We're also in the process of buying a house so maybe we could do a housewarming where we happen to get married similar to your small ceremony lol thank you

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Different bouquet is perfect! That way, you get a totally different vibe. Thanks for the tip!

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I don't think that's wrong of you at all. I think it can really all come down to your dad and hopefully your fiance will understand! My cousin did their civil wedding in September and was supposed to have the big celebration in May. She didn't tell anyone they actually got married until the day they were supposed to have the big celebration in May. I think not telling is more common than we know because *no one talks about it* lol

View Quoted Comment Thanks!!! Hope things work out for you- me- all of us! Lol

You could always try different accessories, hairstyle, etc. also maybe change up your vows for each and have specific traditions for each union.

Technically the second celebration would be a renewal of vows. I would make that clear.

We are doing exactly that. Having a very small wedding and casual gathering this year, near our original date, and still planning on a larger ceremony & reception next year with everyone we love.

Mostly, I think both will be special in their own ways because of the addition of more people to share the the love the 2nd time around. But I'm also looking at switching up my accessories for the big wedding next year.

Maybe a birdcage veil or pearl headpiece type thing (my dress is very Gatsby-ish) for next year, instead of my more traditional 2 tier veil that I want to wear this year. Probably a different hairstyle and definitely different make up since I'm doing my own hair/makeup this year, and will have a professional next year.

The locations are COMPLETELY different, so the photos for both will have a very different look and feel also.

There's dozens of ways to make both days feel special.

We have our date set for 9/19/20. We're planning on a court wedding but we want to do a rexeption and ceremony on our 1 year anniversary so that all our friends and family can be there. I think it's a great way to celebrate that we're still together after all this chaos.

This is my second postpone. We got married the first time in the mountains with just family and I wore a different dress but it was a wedding dress. My husband wore slacks and a tie to match my flowers. It was very special for us, no we didn’t have a bridal party and no one actually knew we was getting married that day. But it was special for $2000 we spent for the on everything, including food for everyone.

I am doing a different dress and my photographer has agreed to come as well as my makeup artist. I am also streaming my ceremony on zoom. I am choosing not to wear a veil and the dress of got is more form fitting then my big ball room dress for my big wedding. We are doing good take out to for our wedding with our parents so that’s something I’m looking forward to !!