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Covid help

Sara, on June 14, 2020 at 10:42 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 9

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Like many of you, I am most likely going to have to change my big wedding to a smaller wedding this September. My problem is I don't want to make any decisions until I absolutely have to.

Next month I will be having two bridal showers thrown by my aunts and my fiance's aunt. My biggest question, what do I do with gifts from people who will not be able to attend due to restrictions?
Do I return them to the gift giver? Should I just tell my aunts to cancel the bridal showers because we will most likely have to cancel the big wedding? I know the invites have already been sent out for both showers and places have been rented and games already printed out. I don't want to waste people's money. Or maybe I reach out to guests and explain the situation of having to cut the guest list and ask them to just come together to celebrate the "marriage" no gifts needed? I just don't know how to approach it.

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Latest activity by Sara, on June 15, 2020 at 8:51 AM

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Melle · on June 14, 2020 at 11:59 AM
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I would still have the showers. Like you said, you’re not yet cancelling your wedding right? You’re just saying there’s a possibility that it could be cancelled but you’re still planning on it to happen? Or even then you’re still having a wedding anyway even if it’s small.
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Sara · on June 14, 2020 at 12:05 PM
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Yeah I haventade the call yet, but I don't know what to do if I do end up making the call but it's too late to cancel the bridal showers. I just don't know what to do with gifts from people who were unable to go to the wedding.
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June 2021
Dj Tanner · on June 14, 2020 at 12:12 PM
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Depending on how many people you are inviting, would you ever consider just waiting till next year if your venue can’t accommodate all of your guests
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Melle · on June 14, 2020 at 12:16 PM
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I would keep them. You’re still getting married and stuff, they still wish you well, you’re just not able to have the wedding you thought you originally would plan for but I think that’s fine to keep the gifts rather than return them
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Sara · on June 14, 2020 at 12:18 PM
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I was thinking of waiting originally. But we would still have to get married this year because I'm turning 26 in January and my job does not give me insurance so I mooch off my parents. And I just don't want to spend all the money for small ceremony for this year and then do it again next year. Also my fiance does not want to do courthouse. He says we spent all the money and time planning we should just go forward with it and have it small. The other positive is we can use all the extra money we saved to do the renovations on our house that we need to do.
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June 2021
Dj Tanner · on June 14, 2020 at 12:36 PM
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Yeah, I mean then at that point maybe you should talk to your aunts about holding off on the shower. That could get pretty dicey
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Kayse · on June 14, 2020 at 2:18 PM
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I'd still have the showers and use the gifts. I don't think most people give a wedding shower gift solely in exchange for an invite to a party.
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· on June 15, 2020 at 6:35 AM
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Would you consider streaming the ceremony (via Zoom or Google hangouts or something) to the people you can't invite to wedding? I think what the other posters said about keeping the gifts is correct, but people still might be offended if they're invited to the shower and not the wedding. Given the circumstances, most people should understand, but inviting them on Zoom would at least make them feel included.
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Sara · on June 15, 2020 at 8:51 AM
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I will have to run a few tests because his parents live in the middle of nowhere and the service is not great. They don't have WiFi because it isn't available for their area but it's a great idea!!
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