covid Fatigue......

My fiancé and I got engaged January 2020. We’ve been together for 7 years. We were planning to get married October 2020, but cancelled in order to prioritize the health and safety of our family and friends. We’ve now rescheduled three times and are down to our last two contingency dates, October 2021 and May 2022. It has been an emotional rollercoaster, like I’m sure it has been for all of you!

I am trying to keep perspective, but cannot help feeling disappointed, sad, angry, and a whole slew of other emotions. I know the most important thing is that we’re healthy. At the end of the day I’m grateful to have the love and commitment of my fiancé, but I cannot help but feel the unfairness of the situation. After 7 years, I desperately want the wedding that I’ve always dreamed of, but I’m tired of waiting. I’m definitely feeling fatigued, at some point looking forward to the wedding is not exciting, but draining.

I’m just trying to find a solution that I can live with… my fiancé is incredibly supportive, but the actual wedding does not hold as much weight for him. We’ve talked about signing papers and celebrating later to just “be married”, but I very much want some of our wedding to hold to tradition. We’ve also talked about signing papers and cancelling the party all together, but I do think that we’d regret that decision. I keep going over the options again and again and I’m struggling to be “okay”.

You all seem to be taking this in stride. Reading your optimism has helped. Do you have any advice to get of the COVID bride emotional rollercoaster?

View Quoted Comment We share the same sentiment! We are getting married! Everyone is old enough to make their own decisions. You can accept or decline but I’m not limiting my day. We will of course take the precautions needed to keep everyone as safe as possible, but I’m getting married in 33days!!

View Quoted Comment I’m so glad you both are deciding to go ahead with your once in a lifetime day!!!!.


I’m exactly 12 days to go

View Quoted Comment And that's it!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

View Quoted Comment Haha I’m 13 days away! Omg your a day ahead how great! I rather continue on! No need to stress about what you can’t control and enjoy your HUSBAND! I choose that☺️

View Quoted Comment I couldn’t agree more. It’s going to be a celebration!!!!! What music are you choosing? I am walking down a double staircase to Fall on me

View Quoted Comment I’m walking down the aisle to You Are the Reason and leaving after we jump the broom to Why I Love You

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Could not agree more! There's no fight or argument - If you're not comfortable going back to life, by all means don't. No one is chastising you for staying home or declining an invite to a wedding. I've chosen to move on, and so have so many others. You don't have to move on with us, but you can't expect everyone to stay in a bubble forever. Stay home until you're comfortable going out, we will proceed with life. Good luck to you and your sweet day! I hope it's everything you've dreamt of!

View Quoted Comment That’s so unique. Good luck on your day!!!. I’m sure it will be fabulous

View Quoted Comment Exactly. We had one sister decline after having both shots!!!. Stay home by all means. Next week Thursday evening I am walking down the stairs to the man I love and our closest friends and family to become Mrs. I’ve been waiting 14 years for this moment!!!!!!

View Quoted Comment So i had been crying for 2 hours because my own grandma can’t come because she contracted Covid!!!
My family, Covid shamed her. And next thing I know she can’t come and it’s has been a emotional rollercoaster since. I hate COVID. Cheers to the brides who have stuck/stuck out the Covid ❤️

Postponed planning for this year. Looking to postpone for next summer again and get married no matter what if that doesn't work out. 😭 Never would've envisioned planning a wedding or having a wedding in a time like this but I am so grateful to even have life and health after testing positive for Covid and being terribly sick for 3.5 weeks. I honestly felt like I wouldn't make it. Been considering to get married this year by church and then next year have our big venue event. At the end of the day the way I am dealing with this fatigue is by realizing that our union in marriage is the most important thing and everything else wedding related is a blessing whether we can have it or not.

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I am so sorry to hear that. Especially because I lost family due to Covid and what I wouldn't give for them to be healed from it and not have passed away. I contracted Covid and was healed from it and it was the worst experience of my life. I can only imagine how your grandma who has already endured almost a life time that she would have to endure being Covid Shamed. If she test negative she is actually a safer guest to have because that means she cannot pass it to anyone and she is protected herself for a couple of months. Not only that the people that are the most to be worried about are those that claim to have never had Covid because many can be a-symptomatic and not even know they had already been exposed to the virus. Truly hope that your grandma can be appreciated and respected by your family because that is just so sad if everyone is basically treating her like she's gone yet she is there. Enjoy the precious timing you have with your loved ones. I for one wished I had more with mine who have been taken away by this terrible virus. Best wishes😞💗

Proceeding as planned. We were fine with cutting the list (we're in NY and beginning March 15th we can now have weddings of 150 people as long as everyone is tested negative or has been vaccinated). We have stressed both of those conditions are necessary in order to come per NYS. All we can do is think positive; if people come, that's amazing! If people are unsure and don't want to risk it, that's ok as well, but we aren't postponing either.

Best of luck to everyone!

View Quoted Comment This is exactly where we are at. We are planning our wedding as if COVID doesn't exist. If anyone doesn't want to come, I'll send ya pics! But I'm having my wedding.

Our wedding was scheduled for April 2021, but shutdowns went back into effect by December 2020, so we decided to postpone.


Our venue was great, but only had two re-schedule dates for us due to others in he same boat, and trying to preserve most of what we wanted. One was December of 2021 or April of 2022. We went with April of 2022 because December weather is bad in our state.
Our state just opened things back up, so now I’m kicking myself for re-scheduling. Realistically, it wouldn’t have been possible to invite everyone while predicting that things would be open, so I guess we made the right choice. It stinks to have to wait another year. I’ve already waited 9! Lol

View Quoted Comment I am so sorry to read that. It is definitely a strain of the influenza. Everyone is different. Some will get the virus and some not. We are older and do we really want to continue on with our lives and like I said if anyone doesn’t feel well stay home. I’ll share the video at a later date with those who couldn’t make it. Getting sick is horrible and I feel for you.


Things happen for a reason. Maybe something good will happen through this. Take a deep breath. Maybe take a break from planning [ depending on your date] today I am going to put everything aside and take my maid of honor somewhere.

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Exactly. We always planned for a small intimate wedding. 36 total. Everything went as planned and now we are waiting for the 18th to arrive. All attending are adults and can make their own decisions with their health. I’m not afraid of any of it and neither are our guests. We’ve done the research and understand all of it. We do not live in fear but free will and choice. No Covid tests, wear a mask or not wear a mask. No sanitizers as gifts but wash your hands like an adult, don’t crowd me or others which I like anyway and hugs all night!!!! Memories made!!!!!!!

View Quoted Comment Agreed! I’m ready to be excited about the wedding again.

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Have the happiest day ever!!!