covid Fatigue......

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I feel you!

Our day was May 30, 2020. Everything in our state shut down the week our invites went out. The last part of March and all April and May were torture. I became glued to Covid news desperately wanting some sort of miracle but knowing in my heart it wasn't going to come. So we made the call to cancel our wedding. Then just 10 days before our wedding day my mom was diagnosed with cancer. So we switched plans again and did a socially distant elopement with fewer than 10 guests on our original day. We postponed what I'm calling our "redo" wedding to June 12, 2021, but even back then I felt things would not be normal in a year's time. I wanted to postpone to 2022 but none of our vendors would allow us to then. Then, in November our venue reached out to us and told us they didn't anticipate being able to host our wedding the way we wanted in June. So now we need to pick a new date or just give up on celebrating altogether.

I'm 35, my husband is 38, and we want to try for kids. I had wanted to start trying after we got married, but when we pushed our celebration back to June 2021, we decided to hold off so that we wouldn't have to change our date a third time. Now we have to anyway, and we missed out on nearly 6 months of trying to conceive. We're out of options. We've pretty much given up on actually celebrating with family and friends, and we are trying for a baby. If we get both of those things we'll be lucky, but I guess at this point we will just try to settle for one or the other.

I'm exhausted. I'm not excited anymore. I feel like if we get pregnant part of me will feel sad because we will never have the wedding and honeymoon we hoped for. But if we don't get pregnant soon, we just won't. So I guess I am just emotionally preparing to be disappointed again in one way or another, because I really don't think we can have both.

Yes, and it’s exhausting trying to maneuver and find ways around all of the ridiculous restrictions.

NYC bride here and I’m having my wedding . I postpone my wedding from 10/11/2020 to April 17. 2021 and we got the green light from out Governor to have 50% no more then 150 ppl and can have dancing . My guest are being tested and wearing masked . If this is the new normal I will take it. I lived through this Pandemic first hand and yes it’s scary but we are doing so much better I work in a nursing home as a nurse and seeing a whole lot. As long as we wear a mask and be responsible we should be fine I get tested twice a week so for my guest to be tested once was not a big deal to them so we can enjoy a somewhat normal wedding

Big day is at the end of April 🤗 we’ve had to move it out once already due to COVID restrictions and the venue. But getting together all of the final touches. Anyone who is uncomfortable with attending (which I totally understand) were looking in to a livestream option for them. It stinks but I refuse to let it ruin our big day! It’s tough enough to plan a wedding and COVID just adds extra challenges, good luck!

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Do you pay for tickets and lodging for your guest in hawai?

I am in May and beyond annoyed smh. Cant have the venue i want have to wear masks everywhere😵

Rescheduled once already not doing it again. If people don't want to come I understand.

Yes April 3rd 4/3/21

View Quoted Comment Omg me too, im back at square one!!!

View Quoted Comment Absolutely agree with this. This is how my fiance and I feel.

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Aw! The vaccine does make a huge difference! It's not a magic bullet, but it DEFINITELY helps! Things are getting better and the finish line, while not right now or in the very near future, is in sight!

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Hi there! No, if we decide on Hawaii, we wouldn’t cover travel and lodging for guests. The same way we aren’t covering it for our current destination wedding in Vegas. We’re inviting 65 guests to Vegas and 95% of them live in SoCal with us. So there will be travel for our wedding either way. But Hawaii would technically be an elopement (without it being a total secret). So, we already know that it could end up being only FH and I in Hawaii, and that’s perfectly fine. Since we only recently thought about this Hawaiian Plan B, we already ran the idea by the few guests we’d invite and they were down for attending our wedding and also getting a vacation too. We selected a max of 20 for Hawaii because we can easily do a simple waterfront ceremony with a rooftop dinner reception and avoid planning a fully detailed wedding “sight unseen”. I’ve only been to Hawaii 4 times. But it’s not nearly as easy as hopping on 1-hour flights to Vegas, like we do, to meet at our venue or with vendors. Also, FH and I are both second time bride and groom. So a big perk of not being the more common “20 something” couple is that we and our friends are financially stable and can more easily “go with the flow” and agree to such trips. But while in Hawaii, we would cover a private welcome luau, a private shuttle island tour, the reception dinner (of course) and brunch the next morning. So it’s a great time whether in Vegas or Hawaii. But we need to make a final decision in the near future 🤔 💭

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Curious, how did it go when you uninvited people and what did you say? I think I'm going to be in the same situation based on the "yes" replies. I am surprised more people haven't cancelled. Any insights are appreciated.

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I fell the same way! We were supposed to have our big day last year in April, but literally a month before the world shut down so we ended up eloping and we're planning our reception for our one year anniversary. We are definitely understanding of anyone that doesn't feel comfortable attending, but we still want to be able to celebrate with our friends and family.

COVID left us with a lot of unknowns in December and January. But we are able to go ahead with our wedding as planned but just with covid precautions. Such as the venue is cleaning and has staff wearing masks and no buffet. Just simple small changes. We are also livestreaming the wedding because most of my family doesn't want to travel due to covid. We are just so ready to get married and have been waiting for a couple years now.

I have similar sentiment as people. Our wedding is 9/25/2021, we postponed from last Fall. We are planning as if it’ll be okay, but I have a voice telling me that it won’t. Unfortunately I do not think we will be able to have the wedding we imagined pre-covid. We will not postpone again, so we will need to figure out how to make it a safe and fun wedding. It is sad and heartbreaking, I am letting myself grieve this high possibility of a new vision. I am sad that our vision will not be possibly and feel upset that I cannot have my ideal wedding (which I know sounds petty with all that is happening).


What are ways you all are shifting your plans? I know the first will be decreasing the guest list. For fall weddings, when will you be making decisions to shift? And any other things.

July bride here. I’m over it lol but we have covid precautions in place and at this time we are making masks mandatory

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4/17/21 bride

Thank you! I don’t understand why that is so difficult for people to understand. I get the feeling that covid brides have such a better head on their shoulders than everyone else!
So many people have said things to me that just really annoy me now. Like “maybe if I get my vaccine in time I could come...” Why, so you could spread it to the non-vaccinated guests? Like, damn.

10/2/2021 bride here! Luckily we haven't had to postpone. We are getting married this day restrictions or not. Unfortunately I think COVID and some restrictions will be around for a while. We are hoping that some things will be a bit better by the time of our wedding. We are just going to make the best of it! At the end of the day I’m marrying the love of my life💕 we are not putting our lives on hold. Good luck to you!

We planned for Sept 21 as planned prior to Covid and are still going ahead as normal. It’s a big orchard, open to only our event. Anyone who is still hesitant about it can simply decline to attend no hard feelings.


It’s the unfortunate truth that Covid is not going anywhere, regardless of the many that will be vaccinated by that time it will still be some time before we see any real noticeable progress and years before it’s completely controlled. No point on putting our lives on hold for 1, 3, 5 years....
Regardless of our guests we still plan on getting married our chosen date and having our brilliant photographer capture it. I know FH has always wanted all his family and friends there, which will be the case if nothing changes (such as another state wide mandate), however I’ve always wanted to elope so either case scenario one of us will have the day we’ve always imagined! 🤣