covid elopement question- name change?!

I think it's completely up to you. I see no problem with changing your name especially if it's already out there. Don't over think this, just enjoy the little moments !

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It’s personal preference, but I would want to change my name when I got married, not when I threw a party.

It’s up to you! It really doesn’t matter. Just be aware social security offices are closed everywhere so you would have to mail things in to change your name right now.

View Quoted Comment Well I am getting married twice so I guess that’s what difficult. I also haven’t officially legally changed it

View Quoted Comment Yes that’s true! I didn’t think about that. It just doesn’t seem right to change it until we get to celebrate with everyone, the majority of my family was able to travel with us but not so much on my husbands side.

View Quoted Comment Unless you’re getting divorced somewhere in between, you can only get married once. What you’re having in October would be a vow renewal or a celebration of marriage. It sounds like you’d rather wait until then, which is totally fine. Your friends and family aren’t the ones changing their name, so this decision is up to you.

Its completely up to you and it also doesn't matter that the invitations say your maiden name. My name will legally be changed before our wedding as well (because we are legally getting married in October). It's no big deal!

View Quoted Comment Thank you!!! 💓💓

I'm not changing my name until my WEDDING (not vow renewal) next year even though I will be legally married this year. I have the same thought process as you, that it's marking our union in front of family and friends. Plenty of women don't change their names right away (eg, my one manager waited 10 years!). Besides, a lot of places are closed right now making it more of a hassle than usual. Stick to your decision and don't let other people (rudely) pressure you into changing it!

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. There are a lot of people who get pissy about the nomenclature and say that unless you are legally signing your marriage license on the day of your big party/celebration,
It needs to be called a “vow renewal”, even if it’s a week or a month later. This is ridiculous, especially considering this scenario is going to SKYROCKET in popularity considering the amount of elopements and mini-monies that are happening right now for obvious reasons.

Hubby and I are court married and our families know that. I will not be saying “please join us for a vow renewal”, because this in my mind conjures up images of older couples who have been married for 3 decades who want to celebrate their relationship with their kids and grandkids.

I don’t know the rules in Nevada, but in most places you can use your marriage certificate to change your name whenever you want to as long as it’s a ‘standard’ name change. It’s usually the DMV/DOT who is fussy, many states want your name changed with the DMV/DOT within a certain amount of days after you’ve changed it with Social Security. So you are likely all good, change it whenever you want (or don’t change it at all 😜).

I completely understand wanting to save this until after you're able to celebrate your wedding with other people, and I definitely think it's fine that your invitations say your maiden name. Getting married doesn't change your name, it just makes it easier for you to do that, so your name hasn't actually changed legally, even if it has in your mind. When/whether/how you change your name is such a personal decision, so try not to let other people pressure you into anything regarding this. But, if other people's opinions are really bothering you, you can always change your name on Facebook now, but legally change it when you have your big wedding.

View Quoted Comment Well we got married in Vegas, but we live in Texas! I think I am going to wait until I legally change it and just legally change it after the second (symbolic) wedding.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I appreciate it. It’s very common now, I know a ton of people who are getting married early at there venues and then are doing the whole wedding again, the only difference in our case is we traveled to Vegas. People can be so mean. Lol. As if I haven’t already cancelled two other weddings.... 😂🤣😅

View Quoted Comment That’s great to know! Did you change your socials as well?!

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I will have the name changed on my social security card as well, I plan to change it for everything.