Alright, ladies. I know this is something that MANY of my fellow brides have had to deal with. I'm not sure if it'll come to this for me, yet, but I want to give myself time to come to terms with it just in case.
Our wedding is set for 10/25/2020. However, we live in NYS (we're in Upstate, NOT the City) and we have some pretty strict guidelines and advisories and NO ONE knows when we'll be able to fully open (for good reason, I'm not bashing our Gov for his desire to open safely).
Currently guests traveling from "significantly impacted states" must quarantine for 14 days (unless they are here for less than 24hrs). It is entirely expected that they will take personal responsibility for this (i.e. no tracking by NYS) but I KNOW those guests coming from these states will NOT abide or make sure they're only here for 24hrs (which is entirely possible as I'm having a late morning wedding). Also, currently, we can only have groups of 50 and our total is around 90.
I'm not able to postpone until my venue authorizes, otherwise I LOSE our $2k deposit completely. I'm not even sure if they'll let us postpone if they're open, as they. made this comment earlier in the pandemic, even if we can only have 50 people- which is unacceptable to me and I would rather lose the deposit than cut almost half my guest list.
Anyway. In the chance we DO have to postpone I'm trying to figure out what we should do. I was thinking we would get married, on the original date we chose, by our officiant or at city hall. That is DEFINITELY happening, FH and I have already discussed that.
However, we're on the fence about what to do for our future celebration with family and I wanted to see what you all thought or if any of you were doing something different and felt like possibly sharing that with us:
1. Push our date either into December, or the New Year, so that it is close to our original date and do the entire ceremony/reception then - we would not be telling guests that we are already legally married (mostly because it just shouldn't even matter and I do actually want the full experience of sharing that with my friends and family)
2. Push our date until 10/24/2020 and hold a 1yr vow renewal and celebration (finally) with our families - where we WOULD tell our guests we are legally married.
I'd love to hear what the rest of the brides that have had to postpone are doing. I'm still hopeful that the original plan can go off without a hitch- but, we just don't know. Thanks for any input you may have!