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Here in Ohio its 10 guests or less .. Our wedding is in September so still not sure what's going to happen.

In tennessee we are still at <10 person gatherings. Our list is 30 anyway so as long as that ban is lifted by July we're all good. If not it'll just be us, my parents, and his parents celebrating together while everyone else is online.

View Quoted Comment Omg see that’s what I’m worried about. Is there even any point in having a wedding at a venue with a caterer if we can only have 10 guests? This is so frustrating I feel so bad for all of us brides-to-be

View Quoted Comment The idea of a smaller, intimate wedding sounds nice. I hadn’t thought of most guests streaming online while the ceremony takes place, but it’s still sad for all of us that we can’t have our picture perfect wedding this year

I mean this as an honest answer, not in a snarky way in an way. The reason the cap of 50 is being thrown around instead of 100 is because the growth of the virus is exponential, not linear. The models being done right now on the spread of the virus are based on what the healthcare system can handle. If 1 person can get 2 people sick, for example, and all guests at a wedding get COVID and then get 2 people sick, the difference between 50 people and 100 magnifies very, very quickly. This is why a lot of states are considering restrictions of 10 people, as it cuts down the exponential growth of spread.


I feel where you and all the other COVID brides are coming from - my wedding is currently scheduled for Oct. 31 and our guest count is fewer than 40. We are strongly considering postponing for the comfort and safety of our guests. Hang in there - were all in this together ❤️

I’m in Texas and I think we will be able to have at least 50 by July (note that means you need to include vendors, so 40-45 guests total). I’ve got that prelim and I went with siblings, spouses, parents, a cousin and his wife, 2 close friends and their spouses, and me and my son. My fiancée can pick his 22, which I’m
Sure will be family as well with a couple of friends. Hopefully this will not be the case but we are prepared. Our original list is just over 80....

We invited about 135. If we can only have 50 guests, we will likely still have the wedding and just cut our list. Due to vendors and such, this would probably need to be cut to about 40. We would have our immediate family and bridal party there, mainly. We would contact the other guests personally if this happens.

View Quoted Comment The idea of having to contact everyone that we can’t have them with us is sooo upsetting lol. I’m hoping we all get lucky and can host our original guest count!

Not sure what doing yet but I invited 70 expecting only 50-60 would come. Only 45 RSVPed so far (and that was before all this so I am sure some of those might have changed their minds after all this) so I will wait and see how thing play out. If I have to cut to 10 or so I am going to say only local relatives can come (might send out another update at that time) and figure out how to use zoom and have an anniversary party next year where everyone can come perhaps. My wedding 11/14/2020 so waiting a couple months before I decide. I am thinking if I can get married on a mountain and only do 10 having small get together it in my backyard. I hope things will go as planned though and I can still have a wedding since I planned everything 1.5 years in advance.

I am still hoping plan A will work out but if not then I have to be ok with plan B whatever it may be because this is life. I work in healthcare so I understand, but it is hard. I am just bummed that I didn't go on vacation last year and planned my bucket list trip going to Yellowstone in June and honeymoon in Hawaii and might not be able to do either. I hope things work out for us and for everyone else that is feeling the same way.

The thing I saw another bride bring up as well is that many contracts for the venue/catering have a guest minimum and I know at least one person who was still going to have to pay the cost for the 145 minimum, even though she was only allowed to have 50 people. Obviously she’s getting a lawyer, but that made me worried too because there’s so much uncertainty even on a week to week basis

View Quoted Comment We've not even hired an caterer yet we had an meeting n tasting with one but that didn't happen due to this virus. Just dunno anymore. Plus I just found out I'm pregnant and I'll be pregnant at my wedding that wasn't in the plans at all.

We’re currently not able to have gatherings of <10 and I don’t see that changing much soon. I would look into your postponement options.

In PA our next phase is 25 people. For us we get to this number almost exactly by limiting it to the wedding party, officiant, and our parents. If we had to choose 50 or 100 I have no idea how we would begin to do that

We have a similar issue with the caterer- the minimum is 100, so our plan would be to postpone the big reception and have our full 200 people, but still do the 25 person wedding around the same timeline we originally planned.

I am getting married on 9/5/2020. Our current guest list is at 125. If we cut it down to just close family members and our bridal party we are at 64 . I am hoping by September they will increase the limit to 60 or 70 at least.

View Quoted Comment I’m getting married in PA as well, in Bucks County. They’re not even on the list of reopening yet, so I think I’d have to wait til end of summer :/

I’m getting married in NY. Things are bad right now there. My wedding is Labor Day weekend. I was re-reading my contract this afternoon. My venue does a minimum food and beverage instead of per person, so I’m extremely concerned that I’ll have to pay that price even if we can only have a few guests.

We sent our out and got some rsvps back. If we had to it would be family, no kids even related to us, no coworkers and only. Lose friends. MIL neighbor hard no. We would have to tell them that due to restrictions we’ve had to cut down and regret that they won’t be able to have quite the party we’d hoped for. But that being said, I’ve seen some states that think July they will be back to somewhat normal. Will people wear masks? Most likely. Will they at wedding? That’s up to them and regulations of venue and state.