Covid-19 help! Postponing for 2021

I would postpone.

i know that's a touchy and tough decision to make but i just don't imagine that summer weddings are going to be ideal. ideal in the sense that i don't think it'll be the wedding that YOU envision even if they are allowed to be held. i highly doubt there would be any dancing other than your first dance allowed. i highly doubt you'd be able to socialize with guests, i highly doubt there wouldn't be a mask requirement, etc.

in states where weddings are allowed, they still have all these restrictions that honestly don't make a wedding a wedding anymore. people would just be coming to watch and eat at that point. that's all fine if you are ok with it but if you aren't, then i'd postpone. so just think about what you'd be ok with and not ok with due to the restrictions.

i really hope everything works out for you though and that you'd be able to hold an event you'd be happy with.

If you’re not concerned about the “must have “ guests not coming, I would move forward understanding that it may less guests than you expected. It must likely won’t be like the wedding you’ve planned but you’re right. Next year may be same thing again. IMO, if the worst thing at my wedding is people won’t be able to dance, than I’m good. Check with your venue what they think it will be like in August.

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Yeah I really don't think weddings will go back to normal until 2022/2023 and we are not willing to wait until then. I also think it may be too soon for our venue to know the details. Sigh.. thank you for your reply!!

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Gah, I know. Our venue thinks guests can attend mask free but who knows what the laws will be in CA for weddings. Thank you so much for your reply and kind words!

Omg we must be living the same life lol. I already postponed my wedding to August and I have a soft hold date for next June as well! I am really set in moving forward with August as I don’t wanna wait another year and be in the same boat. The deal breaker for me is if everyone has to wear a mask at the wedding but for now holding out hope moving through the process. It defiantly has made being a bride and wedding planning WAY less exciting and more stressful. I hope we can have our day this August!!

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Omg yes!! If masks are required or no dancing is allowed we will definitely postpone. I hope you are able to have your special day as well! Fingers crossed these next two months go better than the last.

As it stands, we’re still set for October 2020 because we decided to keep moving forward unless our venue cancels. However we also have a plan B and soft holds with our vendors for next October 2021. Initially I didn’t want the Plan B postponement to be a full year. But, in the end, it felt better than running the risk of spring or summer 2021 becoming an issue if cases flare up again this fall.

My fiancé and I were supposed to get married at the end of July in Tahoe. We just postponed to August 2021. Planning became too stressful with all of the unknowns. Everyone has been super supportive and our wedding planner said it was probably the right call with the way things have been going. We are going to elope this year and do the “vow renewal” in August 2021.

Everything that Melle said, and more.

Either postpone, so you can have the wedding you want, or get married because you want to get married. There's just no guarantee that things will be back to "normal" ... or they totally could.

As a native of So Cal, I agree with others that this really boils down to what's most important to you: being married or having the kind of wedding you want? Our governor has made it pretty clear that gatherings of a couple hundred people are "stage 4" events. He's definitely seemed to soften his stance on reopening in the last week or two, but I don't think he's going to be overly aggressive about large gatherings. I'm sure it depends on where you're located. If you're in a major urban area, like LA or the IE, I'd be shocked it you get to stage 4 this summer. If you're in a rural location with relatively low infection rates, it might be possible, but I still suspect anything over 100 guests will be unlikely. And, then, as others mentioned there's the whole masks and distancing aspects. If you're just ready to be married, and are potentially willing to significantly cut your guest list if you have to in order to do so, then I'd move forward. If you're going to be stressed and heartbroken to not have the wedding you've planned for, then I'd probably wait. I'm so sorry! Good luck!

We are in the same boat! 9/12/2020 wedding. We are holding out another month to decide if we officially want to postpone. I have a lot of relatives in medicine and they keep telling us that fall 2020 may be a “sweet spot”. They also feel like Spring/summer 2021 May not happen because of a second wave next winter. If our guests don’t have to wear mask and they can dance, we are having ours this fall! well space tables out and ppl can dance as they wish. We’re utilizing more outdoor space for our reception too. We are having 120 ppl and have talked to most individually to get a sense of how comfortable people would be, and the overall consensus was everyone wants us to get married this fall.

I think it all depends on were you live and what restrictions are in place. It also depends on your feeling and what you care about as well. Some are willing to post phone, others want to just move on with it. I agree weddings will be a lot different moving forward. I did hear on the news this morning that a vaccine may be available early Jan. I am moving on with my wedding regardless. Currently in Ohio we can have up to 300 at a reception, but no congregating or dancing. If that is not changed by the end of Oct (which I am confident if things continue on a down slide it will) then we will only have the wedding. I have a soft hold for a celebration for 7/31/21, but I may cancel that all together not sure. I will lose 5,000 cancelling but if I go forward with the celebration I own an additional 7,000 so really I would probably just cut my losses. Time will tell. My advice go with your heart and your gut based upon you and your FH want to do.

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Hi Marisa, that is SO wonderful to hear that majority of your guests want you to resume with the wedding this fall! I am so happy to hear that. We haven't spoken to everyone but we are definitely getting mixed opinions. I am also concerned that spring/summer 2021 may not happen due to a second wave - that's mainly one of the reasons we don't want to postpone to June 2021. We would hate to push our marriage out a full year and then still not be able to have the event we wanted. I do hope that August-October will be a "sweet spot". Best wishes to you!! I hope you are able to have the day of your dreams!

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Thank you, Taylor! Ah, I do hope that dancing will be allowed come October. If masks are required or dancing is not allowed by August then we will definitely postpone and hope that the second wave doesn't ruin weddings in early 2021. We have until July 14th to make a decision on postponement so I hope my gut will wake up and tell us what to do. I hope everything works out for you and I am so sorry you are going through this!!

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I am getting married in mid July in the Seattle area, we were thinking of eloping with some family and then do a vow renewal next year. How are you planning for your elopement? Most places are still closed including state and national parks.

Thanks!

I feel your pain. We originally planned to get married on April 19th in Purcellville, Virginia. With stay home order and strict social distancing measure we were forced to postpone the wedding. Unfortunately our venue is not so flexible with rescheduling. They only left us with few options (read: free slots they have in 2020 aaaannnddd within the same price base). We asked if we can push back the wedding to 2021 but they’re not keen with the idea. Then we asked if we can have October Sunday, but they said we need to pay $2k extra as it falls within their peak season (May - Nov). It left us with a few dates on August and though hesitated we were left with no choice but agreed with August 16th.


We honestly worry that even though some states, including Virginia, has begun to reopening, social distance is still on effect in addition to border closures that makes it impossible for many of our guest traveling to the States. CDC is also predicted the second wave of Covid -19 will hit in Fall months.
A few days ago, my fiancé emailed the venue and ask the possibility to push back the wedding to a later date this year or 2021.
Their response?? 15% rebooking fee25% deposit along with the initial contract 25% remaining deposit due 60 days before the new date along with $1,600 security deposit .
My thoughts:
Every business should want to improve customer experience. If you’re not trying to help your customer, you’re not helping yourself. Unfortunately, many businesses seem to run counter to this idea. Instead they’re looking for ways to charge their customers more rather than help them out, and that will lead to a decline.

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Grace, Oh my god- my venue has been super cool. Please review your venue so that everyone sees how they're price gouging you. I would never book there based on your story. I'm so sorry and wish you the best.

Our wedding is September 19, so we're still on. It's a small (60) wedding, basically outdoors (barn and outside grounds) and we're outside of Houston in another county that hasn't enforced masks for all. I'm really torn because I don't think my Mom is going to attend if COVID is still an issue and it likely will be. If I had to guess, most of my family and friends would still attend, so I'll probably stick with our date unless the venue cancels. I only have a handful coming from out of state and none in harder hit areas. Good luck to you all.