Covering up tattoos

@Crystal-instead of getting into a snit, how about actually sitting and thinking about the comments in a critical way instead of having a knee-jerk reaction? How would you feel if someone asked you to change something that was fundamental to the way you looked and your being? How would you feel?

On of my BM has two full sleeves. She was supposed to be in a wedding in the next few months but dropped out because the bride demanded she buy a long sleeved dress to cover her tattoos because the bride wanted to be the only one with showing tattoos. Tattoos are a part of them if you didn't want them showing, shouldn't have asked them to be in the wedding.

@Future Mrs. G I was not comparing a job interview to a wedding. You said, "I have a bunch of tattoos and if someone asked me to cover them up I would karate chop the bitch in her throat!!" And although you were probably kidding, it just says a lot about your attitude towards those who don't agree with you. If you would just decline, then you could have just said that. It’s totally fine if you find it disrespectful to you to be asked to cover them, but you don’t have to have an attitude about it, especially if there’s a reason for it. That goes for half of the comments on here.

PrettyWhitty&Gay Being “gay” and “black” is not the same thing, as having tattoos are purely a choice, unlike race and sexuality.

You can't ask the people you supposedly love to cover the things that make them THEM! It's rude. It's tacky. It shows you only care about their appearance and how it will look in your pictures.

Personally I would never want anyone to ask me to cover up my tattoos. I also could never imagine asking my bridesmaids to cover up theirs. They're part of yourself and who your bridesmaids are. I even picked wedding dress to showcase most of my tattoos there would be no way I could ask either of my ladies to cover there's. It is your wedding though and definitely up to you. Though you would be risking offending them quite a bit.

I only read some of the previous comments, so I apologize if I missed something.

If someone wants to cover their own tattoos of their own volition, let them. But I would not ask people to cover their tattoos... IDK, it feels to me like telling people how to cut their hair, to lose weight, or to wear color contacts so they fit some sort of aesthetic. It feels invasive and over-the-top. You can tell them what dress/shoes to wear day-of, and even pick out how to have their hair done, but that's about it. I can't imagine asking a friend who is dear enough to me to stand in my wedding to change their appearance like that... I have tattoos, and if my friend asked me to cover them up I'd say no.

@jacky you don't know me. Don't try to assume you know my character!! I'd rather my character say "I love you despite your tattoos" instead of "I love you but I would love you more if you covered up who you were".

And yes, I was kidding and I live in a world where people disagree with me every single minute of the day. And guess what?? Ready for this one? I somehow survive and make it through life. I am an adult, I know how to handle real life situations as such. Covering up a tattoo so your pictures can look super pretty, isn't what I would consider a real life tragedy.

I intentionally asked my bestie to pick out a dress that showcases her tattoos. Unless they're wildly offensive (naked people, slurs) I don't think it's appropriate to ask anyone to cover their tattoos.

I don't think asking someone to cover tattoos for their wedding is any worse than saying no kids allowed. I have two kids and also have 1/4 sleeve tattoos. I would be more offended if I got an invite to a wedding and they said no kids. Even if I were asked to be a bridesmaid and they said no kids. I'm sorry but my kids are a part of my life more than my tattoos are. I'll cover tattoos up with no issues. But I'm not leaving my kids at home. I'm not going anywhere that my kids cants go!! But that's my personal opinion.

If my best friend asked me to be her MOH, I'd cover my tattoos for her wedding and not even give her any grief about it.

I think you should just keep them. You are who you are. Just because you are getting married doesn't mean you should look like a different person. You are obviously not prim and proper or you wouldn't have the tattoos to begin with. I say rock that shit! And let your BM's do the same.

I picked a dress that specifically showed my tattoos because my visible pieces have a special meaning to me. Two of my other BM have tattoos but no one has offered to cover them and I have not asked because I thought it was a given that they could let them show. I never knew this was even a question until I got on this forum.

I have a tattoo that is in memory of my biological father who passed away and another of my little sisters thumbprints. If I were ever asked to cover them, I'd feel very offended. I would need a damn GOOD reason to cover them up.

I have a tattoo of my grandmother's handwriting from the last birthday card she gave me before she passed that reads I LOVE YOU FOREVER, FOR ALWAYS, GRANDMA on my inner bicep. I wouldn't cover that up, it means more to me than a photo, or what someone's Aunt Tilly would think of me for having it. Maybe I am being a bit dramatic .. but I just could never imagine asking someone to sacrifice something that may mean the world to them just for the sake of a photo or for the sake of not being judged by someone who doesn't like tattoos.

Heather, really? I have an 8 year old, and I understand there's places, events that aren't for children. So because I'm a mom I should have zero life, and not attend anything my child can't attend?

I was actually a huge fan of kids to a wedding, after talking to a few friends, they said they would have enjoyed more a few weddings they'd been to if they didn't have their children. If I invited full families to my wedding I'd have nearly 20 children in attendance. After careful thought and consideration we're not inviting children outside of the wedding party.

@Heather, no kid weddings and covering tattoos are certainly not equally offensive. That's ridiculous. Requesting an adults-only wedding is preference due to the taste of the people hosting it. Asking a person to cover their tattoos is changing their physical appearance for a dang picture. Not the same thing at all.

I'm confused how someone can have 2 half sleeves and be covered in tattoos and be uncomfortable with them.

That's way to big of a commitment to be insecure about. #colormeconfused.

I see what you're saying. Like I said it's a personal preference. My kids are only kids once! Then They grow up. I want to do everything with them that involves them. I was left out a lot as a child and not wanting the same for mine. Once they are grown, then we will go to whatever.

I understand some people would rather not have kids in the way. Some kids can't act right, but that falls on the parenting. But to me, asking someone to cover up tattoos is not as bad as asking them not to bring kids.

I have a large family with a bunch of kids. It's up to them if they want to bring their kids or not.

We all want our Wedding the way we want it. Our friends and family should be supportive of or wishes. Some may not like the things we choose, but they can get past it. It's only for a day. I wouldn't think that they would disown us for anything that had to do with our wedding.

I'm sure it's all been said by now but I'm all for letting them show. Unless someone has some thing offensive, I say go with it. If you do want them covered, make sure your MUA is experienced with cover tattoos. bad cover-ups look really terrible!!

I also have a large family, and all of my friends have kids.

I understand kids are only kids once, but I still thinks there's event that's not appropriate for children. I'm not bringing my 8 year old to my bach party, or to a rated r movie, or any of adult thing. I'm also not going to seclude myself for 18 years.. My son goes on a week long vacation every summer with my dad, and sometimes another trip with my mom. You're making it seem like because I choose to attend non kid event, or let my son make memories with family without me, that I'm not being a good parent..

Comparing kids to tattoos is completely ridiculous. I'm not offended in the slightest if someone says they want an adult only dinner or lunch.

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Pretty interesting responses, I would of never thought it would be that offensive to someone you asked to share your special day to cover up there tattoos for a couple of hours. I have tattoos and they have meanings but if I was in a friend wedding and she asked me to cover them up out of respect I would in a heart beat!

I simply stated my personal thoughts, same as You are. We are all different humans and chose to live our lives differently. AND NOT ONCE DID I SAY ANYTHING ABOUT YOU NOT BEING A GOOD PARENT. You are not understanding what I am saying. I'm not even talking about you or referring to you. Every person, and household, is different. I'm not doing Bach party, not doing a registry, not having a father walk me down the isle bc I don't have one, I don't have a grandfather either, so it's going to be my two daughters walking right in from to me or either holding my hands. I'm not having alcohol at my reception either. All bc that's that I chose to do. Now I'm not saying anything about your choices bc I'm sure everyone is doing their own thing. My thing is, if my friend asked me to cover my tattoos for her wedding, I would. If my friend said I couldn't bring my kids, I'd have my feelings hurt and would not attend. It's personally what I feel. Now you can tell everyone not to bring their kids or tell them all to cover their tattoos or even tell the entire guest list to wear a certain color to your wedding. Choice is yours!! The choice is anyone's! That doesn't make them a bad person, or anything. It just makes them a human being. Of course we all won't agree on things. It's life.

ETA: and I agree with you on there are several events not appropriate for children. We simply pass those events up.