Cousin Invites

Invite the people you want and don't invite the others. Personally, I see no point in possibly going over your budget to include people you do not keep in touch with on a regular basis. I had to leave more than half my cousins off our invite list. Our venue has limited space and there wasn't enough space to invite them. I feel a little bad for not inviting them, but I do not see or talk to them regularly. I was not going to leave off the people I see and communicate with just because there wasn't room for others. They're all adults and will be fine.

You don't need to invite all your adult cousins if your not in contact with them, particularly if you have a lot of them. But if for example you have two in on family don't only invite one of them! For our wedding we invited all my adult cousins but I'm friendly with them all and see them all. My husband on the otherhand was the opposite. His father is one of 9 all of whom have several grown up kids and he is only friendly with one set of cousins so we only iinvited them. To be honest I have never met most of his cousins. That is the way it's always done in his family. My best friend her father is one of 14 again they all had 6-7 kids. They are all grown up now, in her family they invite all the aunts an uncles and one or two families of cousins depending on those they are close too.

I have 15 first cousins, and just about all of them have children. Some have grandchildren. Out of all of my first cousins, there are 3 that I see regularly. I also see the adult daughters and grandchildren of one of them. Most of my other first cousins I haven't seen since my grandmother passed in 2004, some I likely wouldn't even recognize if I ran into them. I believe the popular opinion is to invite in circles, first cousins, second cousins, etc. However, I though it was pretty ridiculous to invite people I don't even know in place of people I actually have a relationship with. So I invited 3 first cousins, 2 first cousins once removed, and 2 first cousins twice removed.

We had an ALL cousins or NO cousins rule because we knew if we invited some - some would be very offended - even if we're not close anymore.

We opted for NO cousins at all to keep costs and guest count low.

I've been struggling with the same thing. I'm closer with my mom's side but I don't wanna invite them and not my dad's side because my dad's side has always come second since My parents split when I was young. I can't afford em all so I thought of inviting all aunts and uncles and no cousins.

I only invited cousins that I see more than 4 times a year and actually talk to. As for the rest, just the parents were invited.

I can only speak off my own experience and family. I would only invite all cousins or no cousins, I would never split it up. Maybe my family is a bit closer than yours. It's really tough to say...

I would suggest trying to include anyone that talks with other family members that are invited. It would be awkward for certain people to find out they were one of the cut families, I wouldn't want anyone to feel singled out.

I didn't invite cousins but I did get backlash. Just be prepared for the potential of that.

We invited guests age 21 and up, which is what almost every wedding we've ever been invited to has done. Invited cousins were actually 22 and up. The younger group was just less than 18 years down to 9.5 I had only met the youngest once twice in my life and couldn't pick them out in a room.

My mom is one of 13, and all but one of her siblings has several children.

They're all long-distance so I made a rule that only cousins who have met FH will be invited. Same with aunts and uncles with the exception of one who has always been close to my immediate family and who I just adore. I talked to my mom about it early on and she was ok with this because it's pretty understood in this giant family that you can't possibly invite everyone. I've not been offended at not being invited to some cousin's weddings. For example, our recent family reunion had 200 people. Granted, there were some great aunts/uncles and second cousins as well, but plenty of my first cousins couldn't make it. And still 200 people! I'd invite them all if I could but then our wedding would be largely people I hardly know.