So I have a little bit of a sticky situation. I'm inviting the cousins on my mom's side because I'm close to her side of the family and actually know them. I have one cousin in particular from this side of the family that (A) I'm not particularly close with; we've never really gotten along all that well, and I always thought she was stuck-up when she'd come to family functions, and (B) she is in the throes of addiction, so I'm concerned about theft. The problem is she is the ONLY one that I don't want to invite and I know that she'll find out and probably flip out at me, but she's very toxic. It's more than a year away and I know that a lot can change in that time. If she got clean and on a better path I'd be significantly less hessitant. There is also the possibility that she'll no-show like most of the holidays in the past anyway so I'm really not sure. I'm pretty torn. Her sister committed suicide in November and I adored her because she was actually nice to me.
With that comes my next issue: my deceased cousin has a son who is now an orphan and I wanted to see about him possibly being a ring bearer because that's the only way I have left to honor her. My mom said it's a nice thought, but he doesn't even know me. I want him to know he's still a part of the family. Is it too weird to ask him to be in the wedding even though I'm coming from a good place?
