Cousin as Bridesmaid?

I avoided cousins because I couldn't have some and not others...only ask bridesmaids that are very close - all the problems seem to arise from brides asking people out of obligation or something. Your cousins won't be hurt that they weren't asked if you aren't that close anymore. Readings/songs are great ways to include them.

I think 4 bms are plenty! I feel like large bridal parties are going out of style (no offense to anyone JMHO).

For starters- 4 Bridesmaids is plenty! Does FH have his 4 groomsmen yet?

But you aren't close to your cousin now. If you are questioning it, then you shouldn't do it. Once you ask, you can't take it back. But you can ask her later on.

I'd recommend getting some details (like a date and venue) solidified before you really ask anybody anyway.

I would be careful about including some cousins but not others. But if you would like to give them a role as bridesmaid or readers or jr. bridesmaid or flowergirls, or something else you know the situation best and it is absolutely your call.

I wouldn't add more than 4.. it's VERY difficult to deal with that many opinions when it comes to what dress, color, and type of shoes they will be wearing. It's just a lot to organize-- but that is up to you.

You don't have to ask anyone just yet. I would recommend holding off for a couple months. It's amazing how everyone's true colors come out while planning. Over the past year of planning, I have found the most positive support has come from friends I would have never thought would care. It won't hurt to wait.

A few BMs is great, the more is not the merrier. I've got three, and honestly I'm glad I don't have more. I mean I love my three girls and they have been amazing, but it's just right for me. It's not too many opinions, it's just enough support.

Thank you all so much! I asked my four most important girls for now and I agree that that is more than enough! I think I will find a very nice spot for the cousins somewhere else in the wedding. Just needed a little backup!

4 is plenty! I had 2, and I thought that was enough! I wouldn't ask people who I 'used' to be close with.

I have a big family. Including all in my wedding is next to impossible. The cousins I have included are the cousins that I talk to on a near daily basis. I think it is okay to include cousins that you are close to and cannot imagine your day without!

I had the same dilema. I have many close friends that have been supportive and awesome to me for +10 years and there in my relationship thet i couldnt imagine my day w/o. It was friends vs cousins or the bridal party would have been huge. I ended up choosing 7! And still felt bad cause I had to leave 2 friends out and the cousins. The cousin i was most close with in the last years to whom i was MOh I gave MOh position to her. I was good witj my decision. Then an aunt of mine got pissed that I did not include her daughter with whome I was close in my childhood. She has kept acting weird and i dont know how that cousin feels. If I addedd that cousin I woule have had to ade another cousin of mine to be fair. It is to late now. Wedding is in 3 weeks but this has been heart braking for me. Then my bridal shower was planner by my moms best friend. None of my bridesmaids could make it ad all lived out of town. And the 2 friends i didnot add as bridesmaids came and nome of my cousings. My maid of honor did. It was a blow to the face....


keep regreting my decision as i feel i hurt friends and family feelings

Im afraid I have made a long term damage by not adding one of my cousins and I dont know how to fix it