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Just Said Yes October 2021

Courthouse wedding+big wedding later?

Leah, on August 3, 2020 at 10:59 AM Posted in Community Conversations 1 14
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Hello everyone! My fiancé and I were originally going to get married 11/14/20, but due to the pandemic (and after a LOT of thought and discussion) decided to push back our wedding until next year (10/01/21) so as not to put any of our guests at risk. We've been engaged for a little over a year and are so excited and ready to be married to each other, that we decided to get courthouse married this year (9/22) on our dating anniversary. Do you think it's weird or odd to still have a big ceremony next year? We won't have many family or friends there at the courthouse (I think just our roommate who is a bridesmaid, and my sister the MOH), so it won't be a huge ordeal. We want to be married sooner than next year, and it would help with insurance purposes and such, but we also still want to have our big ceremony that we had been planning for. Thanks in advance for any advice!

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Latest activity by Leah, on August 25, 2020 at 10:50 AM
  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I don’t think it’s odd if you do the celebration next year ! People would want to celebrate your love and journey with you
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  • Leah
    Just Said Yes October 2021
    Leah ·
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    That's what I was thinking! I just wasn't sure if it would be weird to have our ceremony/reception after a year of already being technically married.. Thank you for your response!

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  • Megan
    Expert October 2020
    Megan ·
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    Not weird at all that is what we are doing! Nothing is weird right now because of COVID all the rules were tossed out the window in march! You want to celebrate with everyone but get married now so do it!
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    Its not a problem at all, my fiance and I are doing the same thing. We will legally be married this year on our anniversary and our wedding will be in March and that is where I will wear my big dress!

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  • Alisa
    Devoted August 2020
    Alisa ·
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    Not weird at all. the etiquette around this is shifting because of the pandemic and i think we will see a lot of this in the next year or two.

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  • Angel
    Expert August 2020
    Angel ·
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    As the others said, it's not weird at all! A ton of us who've had our weddings postponed are doing that. You shouldn't have to not marry the love of your life because the world is in shambles!

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    Master July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    Not at all, but I would definitely be honest with your guests that you will already be married. I saw someone posted yesterday about how her brother lied to their entire family because he eloped a year in advance then had the big wedding and his family found out two years later he eloped. They were so super with him because they felt he betrayed their trust.

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  • Cristina
    Expert October 2020
    Cristina ·
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    This is a at mist brides are doing due to Covid. We postponed our October wedding to April next year but will still be getting married this year. Our officiant explained to us he would do our ceremony as if we weren't married. We also dont plan on telling family other than our parents so it works pur perfectly.
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  • Katie
    Expert August 2021
    Katie ·
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    No it is definitely not weird especially in a time like this with Coronavirus. I say go for it. Get married this year and then next year have the big wedding celebration you deserve and do it however you want, if you want to have a ceremony and reception like a wedding would have go for it. If you want to call it a vow renewal go for it, if you want to call it a wedding go for it. Don't care what everyone else thinks do what makes you happy and celebrate how you want to.
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  • Michelle
    Just Said Yes November 2020
    Michelle ·
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    That’s our plan too! We want to get married on our original date this year but will probably only have our parents there and go to dinner after. So I still want the whole ceremony next year with all our friends and family. Like everyone has already said... all rules went out the window once COVID hit!
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    Devoted October 2021
    Adrienne ·
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    Definitely not weird! We are getting legally married this year in a church and will have maybe 15 close family/friends present. Then we will have the ceremony next year as part of the big celebration, so that we still have the tradition of bringing the two families together.

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  • S
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    Sarah ·
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    I don’t think it’s odd, in fact, I’m doing the same myself! I think people will be very understanding of the circumstances you faced due to covid
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    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Kelli ·
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    We are thinking about this as well. What are your plans for the courthouse wedding? Would you still wear your dress and have a photographer?

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  • Leah
    Just Said Yes October 2021
    Leah ·
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    I'm probably just going to wear a nicer sundress for the courthouse ceremony, and save my wedding dress for the big ceremony! My MOH (sister) is flying in to see us do the courthouse ceremony, and will most likely be our stand-in photographer!

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