I'm usually not one to post my dirty laundry online or even ask for advice, but I am in a situation I never in my life thought that I would be in. My boyfriend, of 2 years, proposed to me and we decided on a courthouse wedding pretty quick to save some cash since we actually moving to Europe (for 3 years) in about no time at all and we want to see it all and not have to wait 3 years to get married or come back to the US to do so! Well his family is not happy about that and they made that pretty clear, especially his sister - whom needed reassurance that her brother was sure I was the love of his life and even tried to talk him out of marrying me by saying I'm more like a best friend to him than a love of his life (personally the fact that we are indeed best friends is my favorite part of our relationship). Well, anyways she also said a few things that kept my crying and hiding from the world for a few days - it was a pretty fierce personal attack to which my fiance really didn't see a problem with. He said that his sister was just trying to protect him. It took a while to get over that, but I did.
We are going to her house to get married near her so it is easier for her and his family to make it. That really upset me since I just found out that my grandparents - my only family and the people who raised me cannot make it since my grandpa is sick and they on the other side of the US and they don't really want to be around people who caused me such pain - which I understand as they advise me that I should rethink this if that is the invite to the family that I get. Her attack on me was pretty bad...so bad that I don't think I have ever felt worse in my life. So I just want the smallest wedding ever in a courthouse. His family offered to have the wedding in his sister's backyard since she is such a great gardener. They offered to plan it all. Well as I am sure you can guess, I'm not going to allow people who don't want us to get married to plan our wedding. My fiance says this is them trying to be nice. I don't see it that way and I may just still be hurt, but I am at the point where I just do not even want them there. I would never do that to my fiance though, but I honestly think it is going to be extremely hard to even get through the wedding weekend with them.
So my fiance agreed to the courthouse wedding, outside so at least my pup can be there as that is literally the only thing I'll have on my side and as I'm sure his family is going to make me feel horrible and cry, I need some sort of support there. Again, they are not happy. So now his sister wants to bring friends...and my fiance ok-ed it without even talking to me. I swear this girl is so intent on ruining everything that I wouldn't be surprised if she stood up and objected. I don't understand how anyone would think it would be ok to bring a friend -that neither the bride or groom knows - to an intimate courthouse wedding! I think she is honestly doing all this on purpose because my fiance always sides with her and she trying to show me her power. Well, I'm over that as well. In less than a month, I'll be half a world away from her.
I just need some advice from anyone who had an unsupportive family on how to get through the wedding. Anyone have any?
