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Just Said Yes October 2019

Courthouse wedding/ small reception

Rachel , on October 18, 2018 at 1:49 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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So I’ve decided to do a courthouse wedding with small reception afterwards. I’ve made my own checklist but I’m still trying to figure out how i would mail invitations out, I have a huge family and i would love to invite everyone but i still want a small,simple reception. I need some ideas on what to do when it comes to inviting immediate family but still letting my distant family and friends know I’ve gotten married and if they wanted to send gifts or give money where to do so. I don’t want to be rude.

Any ideas would be greaTly appreciated!

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Latest activity by La, on October 19, 2018 at 6:57 PM

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Caytlyn · on October 18, 2018 at 3:06 AM
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You would send announcements after the wedding, with no mention of gifts or money.
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Victoria · on October 18, 2018 at 5:51 AM
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Agree with this. Send announcements and they can get your address from the envelope if they choose to send a gift.
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WED18 · on October 18, 2018 at 6:35 AM
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My oldest had 11 people at her wedding. We sent announcements afterwards but without the expectation of gifts.
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Maren · on October 18, 2018 at 5:09 PM
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Hi Rachel! Welcome to WeddingWire and congrats on your engagement! The others said it perfectly here. After your intimate courthouse ceremony, you can send announcements to all of your friends and family. From there, if they choose to send a gift, they will have your address from the announcement they receive.
How many people are you inviting to your ceremony? The countdown is here, your one year away from the big day (woo!) and we are so excited for you to say "I do!"
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Rachel · on October 18, 2018 at 5:17 PM
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Thank you for the congrats, well the thing is I’m having two different receptions one in Ohio and one in Texas. So for the invites I’m going to send out two weeks before for those immediate family membership gave time to rsvp and then for the announcements I’ll send after wedding. I’m also debating on having a website and registry.
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Nikita · on October 19, 2018 at 1:38 PM
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For my distant family that won't be there, I'm sending them a personalized card with a professional wedding photo in it after the fact.
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La · on October 19, 2018 at 6:57 PM
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A good rule of thumb is the following: if you aren't inviting person X to the party, person X should not be expected/even get hinted at giving a gift. So you wouldn't send person X registry information.
As the others have said, you can certainly send out wedding announcements after the fact, but that's all it is. An announcement. No registry, nothing like that.
In terms of the people that you are inviting, sure, go ahead and have a registry. Just because you're having a small wedding doesn't mean you can't have one.
Same thing with the website. Even if you're only having a small wedding, having a website isn't necessarily a bad idea. In fact, I think it's a good idea, since you'll be able to give out a lot more information through one as compared to an invitation.
Though, I might caution about only giving your guests two weeks of notice before a wedding. Two weeks isn't a lot of time... it's possible they'll have other things scheduled if you give them that little notice. And if anybody has to do any amount of traveling to get to your reception (like, say, more than an hour by car), that might be a bit of a last-minute imposition to put on somebody.
if it were me, I'd at least give a month's notice, but that's me.
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