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Just Said Yes May 2017

Courthouse wedding, honeymoon splurge?

Jessie, on February 16, 2017 at 1:28 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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To save the hassle and stress of planning a big wedding for our big families, we've decided to get married at the courthouse and spend most of our money on the honeymoon. Some of my family would like to throw us a wedding shower since they didn't get to throw a housewarming party for us. Would it make sense to have a party/shower to invite our family and friends instead of reception. If anyone has done something like this or has any advise it would be greatly appreciated!!

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Latest activity by Jessie, on February 16, 2017 at 2:11 PM

Master May 2017
Mrs.Whooooo · on February 16, 2017 at 1:33 AM
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If they are invited to prewedding events they should be invited to the wedding. Otherwise you look very greedy and gift grabby.
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VIP November 2017
Ann · on February 16, 2017 at 1:53 AM
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I never really understood this...if you're planning a party isn't that like a reception? The ceremony isn't the most expensive part (in my opinion) it's the "party".
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Miss S. · on February 16, 2017 at 5:26 AM
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It's wonderful your family wants to celebrate you. I agree with others, guests invited to a shower need to be invited to the wedding itself. But if your family wants to host an event for you, how about a Welcome Home/ Congrats dinner once you return from your honeymoon?
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Master May 2018
J. Clo · on February 16, 2017 at 7:23 AM
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Given the timing it might be better to invite everyone to a Welcome Home/ Congrats dinner. Share pics from the courthouse ceremony any honeymoon perhaps. This way they can still celebrate this life milestone with you. Also, if they do want to give a gift they'll bring it to the event even if it is not labeled a shower.
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Master May 2017
VC · on February 16, 2017 at 8:06 AM
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As some have said, you may be best to have a congrats party after your wedding instead of before.
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Master March 2016
The Trap Selena · on February 16, 2017 at 8:12 AM
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I did what @Alyssachu did after I got married at the courthouse. Didn't register at all.
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Just Said Yes May 2017
Jessie · on February 16, 2017 at 2:11 PM
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Its not about the gifts. We have our own house and don't really need anything. But I'm still in school (bacholers in chemical engineering) and were paying for this all ourselves. I know my family wants to celebrate with us but are ok with us goin to the courthouse. They want us to be happy. My mom and aunts are wanting to throw a shower or party for us. I do like the idea of a welcome back party. I'll probably run that by him tonight. Thank you all for your input!
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