Courthouse vs traditional ceremony

Have you talked to him and explained why a wedding is important to you? Try to compromise with a small ceremony and reception, maybe.

How about asking him to look at some venues with you. Maybe you'll find something that you are able to compromise with.

Compromise. Talk it out so both are happily married. Good luck Blessings

@OP- I'm in reverse situation because someone else is paying for my wedding and they want me to have a venue booked 22 months out and I'm constantly sick because our house isn't healthy

There are lots of things in the middle......

do a small ceremony with a great officiant, take your immediate family to a great restaurant and you have something smack in the middle. Get a great dress, some flowers and a photographer.

It'll be great!

I was in the exact same position as you. My FH has been married before and this is my first. He is now getting used to the fact that we are having a larger wedding than he wanted but I'm getting my way! Lol. Even his son who is 17 told him he made me wait this long he better give me the wedding I want!

Though now at times, I wish we would have just done a small DW at the beach...oops! Lol

As others have stated sit down and have a heart to heart. On another note I saw an article about a wedding at San Francisco City Hall and rethought my entire wedding. It was beautiful! Maybe you can find a beautiful city hall, a beautiful gown, close friends and family and head out! Then like others have suggested a small reception at a nice restaurant like Maggiano's. They have ballrooms and you won't have to pay a venue fee just meet a food/beverage minimum. Also think outside the box for a venue and day like Friday or Sunday. There's a way for you both to feel like you got what you wanted! It may require a lot of research. I was all over the place before we decided to have our ceremony at the Chapel of my Alma Mater (University of Houston) and the reception on campus as well in the ballroom! Best Wishes!

I'm excited to have my wedding but I will say at first I would have rather it just been him and I with our moms in Vegas.

I've been married before but I did the courthouse thing.

My FH hasn't been married so he actually wanted us to share it with our friends and family. Of course I am excited about it but I hate spending the money.

I know our wedding will be beautiful at the end.

I say talk it out like we did hear his side and ask him to hear you out and decide