Courthouse official wedding, then eloping?

It wouldn't be "eloping" in October. At best, it would be a commitment ceremony or a vow renewal (depending how you want to look at it). The elopement would be the two of you going to the courthouse and getting married this month. Doesn't mean you can't have the commitment ceremony in October and wear the dress and say the personalized vows to each other- it just wouldn't be your legal ceremony.

I agree, your courthouse ceremony would be the elopement. You would be having a vow renewal in October because you'll already be married.

Honestly... you can do what you like, but I'm not sure what the point would be. You'd already be married. A courthouse ceremony is a wedding. So what would you really be commemorating in October?

This would basically be eloping twice and you’d only be getting married the first time so I don’t see why you would do that.

It doesn’t make sense. A courthouse wedding is a wedding. Why would you elope afterwards?

I find this odd. Just move in together and get married in October. Why do you need to be married to move in together?

I also don't understand why you need to be married to live together...this plan honestly makes no sense...

I agree the October ceremony would be pointless. Why elope twice..? Why not move up the October ceremony to March?

Yeah I don't want to say "pointless" but it does seem redundant. Why don't you move your wedding up to June? I don't really understand how you will be taking away from his sister's wedding a month later, particularly since yours involves none of the fanfare of a typical wedding with an audience. You can send out announcements at a later date.

View Quoted Comment This. How on earth would you deciding to elope earlier take away from his sister's wedding? Usually the concern for being too close to a family member's wedding is because of shared guest lists and overlapping pre-wedding parties, non of which are a concern if you're eloping. I'd say either move in together now and keep yoyr October plans or move everything up.

I don’t see the point in doing both. Maybe get married now and make your October thing just a late honeymoon trip (no wedding)

I understand a lot of people want to be married before they live together. Personally, I am the opposite but that's everyone's personal choice. I will say that maybe it is worth evaluating your reasons for wanting to wait until after your married to live together and see if they are flexible in any way. If you do the courthouse that's great but that's your wedding day. The park thing sounds AWESOME and if you wait for that then that is your wedding day. You could do both since it sounds like you aren't inviting guests so it doesn't really affect anyone else but it does feel pretty redundant honestly and it doesn't really make sense - which I think you know since you posted here.

Since you've already spent money on the October thing I would suggest you consider if it's okay for you to move in together first and then gt married in October but it's really your call.