Courtesy invite?

Why dont you just send her a letter. saying how nice it was for her to invite you but you cant afford to make it. talk it up a bit and send a gift card with it. that way you can get her something and let her know you were thinking about her

Not everyone does STDs. But I am sure she sent it to you just to be nice. I am sure she would love for you to come, but she realizes money is tight. And you are planning/paying for your own wedding. I am sure she will completely understand when you say you cannot make it.

It's true not everyone sends stds. i've been debating myself. I would still contact her and congratulate her on the marriage. I would send a letter and a gift card or contact her and get the registry info. I sure that she wouldn't mind giving you that info. Good luck!

I'm sure it was a nice courtesy invite and that she doesn't expect you to go and if you sent her a gift, even a gift card, it would be much appreciated and not expected. Don't feel bad. I think most brides would not really expect their guests to have to pay for airfare or realize how hard it is for ppl to travel if it's 2 hours or more one way. I knew hard it was for ppl to come to my wedding and I didn't expect any spectacular gifts at all. There were a lot of ppl who were more generous than I expected and some that didn't give us a gift, but in the end as long as I know they were happy for me and attended or really wanted to attend, that's all that really matters.

I've sent out invites to people that I knew won't be able to make it to my wedding but I know that they would rather learn of the wedding through my STDs or invites than through word of mouth by somebody that was able to make it. I would send a nice letter saying that you can't make it but you are happy for her, I'm sure she knows that not everybody is able to travel to make it to a wedding and should should be understanding.

I agree with the previous posters, but in case you don't want to do the gift card, you could check for her registry at www.giftregistrylocator.com. They claim to have the registry info from hundreds of stores all on one site.

Call her up and say how much you would like to come, but, unfortunatly, you just can't afford too, but you want to send her a gift, and ask where she is registered.

I agree with 3.6.10Bride-- try searching for her registry on that site or just googling her name and registry. I know that I can find my wedding website and my registry info that way!

If you can't make it then you can't make it... if she's a good friend she should understand that. If you would like to include a card with a little explanation with your RSVP that might be nice.... but I am SURE she will understand. I am sure that will happen alot with the current economy!

It may very well be a courtesy invite. i know i have a few on my list that i'm about 99% sure they won' tbe able to make it but iwant to send them an invite anyways to let them know they were not forgotten. i would say give her a call and let her know that you can't afford to come but would like to send her a gift. ask her if she's registered. if not, you have her address on the invitation. just send her something.