Couples that paid for their own wedding, do you regret spending so much?

I gotta tell you there are going to be days you'll feel doubtful about if it's right decision or not.

that's how i felt - there were days i was questioning whether i should be spending so much on a party. and then there are days where i felt like i'd regret not spending for something i want.

i think the middle boils down to what you are comfortable with spending

We're paying for most of ours. I think it's made us really conscientious of what we're putting money towards. If we're going to pay for something, then it's something we've thought about, done our homework on, and truly want as a part of our day. On the other hand, if there's something we don't particularly care for, then we're either going to find a way to cut corners, do without, etc.

So we're paying for ours entirely. And unfortunately, we live in a really expensive area. So it's ended up being more than I imagined. (Like, I'm deeply jealous of people who live in cheaper areas.) We are budgeting and making it work, but the $$$ is definitely more than I expected. There are certainly moments where I wish I could just keep the money instead of spending it all. haha But, this is what we want, and we've got a plan to pay for it. So, despite it being painful, I know it'll be so much fun and we'll have an amazing time. I think I'd regret it more if we didn't do it, just to save money. This is our vision and desires, and I'm trying to focus on that.

I am having a very hard time with the dollar amount we are spending but future hubby isn't batting an eye. I have been assured both are normal! It fluctuates day to day so I try not to dwell on the money being spent since I do know we budgeted for it and planned well - it just seems so expensive!

We are paying for our own wedding which is large and am very glad as it give us control over decision making. I’m very happy that we will be debt free after this is over in 8 days.

My fiancé and I are financing 75%. So far there’s nothing we regret because we have done anything without being extremely sure but maybe after we’ll feel differently lol

View Quoted Comment I feel this to the core of my being these days lol Because of the pandemic and having to reschedule multiple times, our original budget was first doubled, and has now tripled! We are financing our wedding ourselves, and there are days that I look at the total we are spending and can’t help but think about all the other amazing things we could have done with that money, and I feel guilt and regret. But, there are other days that I am so happy we are doing all the things we really want for this once in a lifetime experience that we can look back on for years to come. Hopefully, when it’s all said and done, I will look back with nothing but fondness. After all, once the money is spent, it’s spent… no use dwelling on it!

We are paying for pretty much everything although my fiancés parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner which we are very thankful for!! We have paid close to 25,000 dollars for this wedding so far (pretty much everything is paid off) although we kind of wish we had a smaller wedding ( we are having about 110 guests) I know it will be worth it in the end! My fiancé worked his BUTT off the last year so our wedding which is in September will be an amazing day to remember for us and our 3 girls 🥰

We still haven’t bought our wedding bands or little things like shoes, fiancés suit, my veil and other things that I forgot lol 😂

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I think what helped me get over it some days was just remembering that i honestly don't think i'd be happy without it. for instance my original budget was like 8-10k and i ended up upping it to 15-16k because i wasn't happy with the catering options and the more expensive one was worth it to me for the food. and in the end it's like i knew i would regret having the cheaper not as good food. so i think thinking about things that way where it's cost versus worth definitely can help.

So the amount of money we're paying (we had some help from our parents but I'd say 70% we're paying for ourselves) is so ridiculously high in my opinion. We can afford it but it stresses me out to spend that much on one day, especially to have so many people that neither of us see really, but are inviting for family's sake.

I have from the beginning WISHED for a destination wedding. Mainly bc we're from two different areas, so one side would be traveling regardless. We ended up picking a place near his family and as a result I think about half of my guests will decline. I've been so sad about this and I think if we had done the destination route, the sides would be a little more balanced bc both sides would be traveling instead of one. And I think I'd feel better about spending the money on fun wedding trip for our closest family and friends, rather than a one night party for 200 people.

We are paying for our wedding ourselves. No outside help. However we planned 2 years in advance so it wasn’t so bad. In the end you want what you want.

My husband & I paid for almost our whole wedding, with a small contribution from my parents very close to the wedding. (They didn’t tell us ahead of time that we would be getting money) We loved planning it & figuring out all of the details, we even did our own centerpieces & they were gorgeous! No regrets at all! Fast forward 26 years & we are paying for our daughter’s wedding. I think we have been able to give her & her fiancé a wedding that is very nice without being completely over the top…there have been a few items like photo booth & videographer that they didn’t want to include & we insisted that we pay for it as there is money in the budget & it is something they wanted. I don’t think there will be any regrets on our part nor their part as everyone is excited for their day…not for all of the flowers, food, beverages, etc. but to see them happy & surrounded by friends & family! A wedding day is truly special & the memories will stay with you for many years. My parents have passed and I still enjoy thinking about my wedding day & their involvement & how happy of a day it was! Hope that helps. 💖

We are paying for our wedding ourselves 100%. We have set a budget that we are trying our darndest to stay within. But being this is my first wedding, I want this to be as special a day as I have dreamed of so we are taking liberties with some things while opting out of others. We already purchased a home so thankfully we don't have that added stress on top of us. At the end of the day, you know what you envision for yourself and its normal to feel a little guilty. But it is your day.

I have zero regrets. I honestly find it better to pay for it on your own because then you get 100% your say and don't feel obligated to appease parents for the guest lists and other wedding decisions.

So, I’m paying for everything myself. No help from family. We are not doing a big wedding. Just a small wedding with family & friends. We’re going low cost and sustainable. We’re getting married at a chapel then going to a restaurant for our reception. I’m making my bouquet and boutonnière for my fiancé. No bridesmaids or maid of honor. I’m buying all the decor seasonally. I’ll use Pandora and a speaker instead of a DJ. So, I think I’ll be happy with little to no regrets.

We are paying for majority of our wedding with some help from my family. We're not having a huge wedding; just family, some relatives and a few friends.

I think it depends though on what you value and what you personally find worth it. You have to spend what you feel comfortable with. Don't go above that.

We are paying fully for own wedding. We received a couple thousand from my parents and his parents are going to host a rehearsal dinner at their home. Our must have's that we both agreed we needed to splurge on were photography, food, and drinks for our guests. Our perspective is that yes, this is one day and spending a lot may seem crazy but it's also a family reunion of sorts. We have family flying in from Canada who we haven't seen since 2017 and a few new additions since Covid who we haven't met yet so I find that being able to finally see and celebrate with family is what keeps me from having regrets in what we've spent.

So I’m paying for the wedding myself. I’m choosing to be affordable and sustainable. Spend money on what’s necessary. I’m not having bridesmaids. One of my best friends is doing my hair & makeup. I’m making my own bouquet & boutonnière. I’m doing pandora for music. Going to a restaurant after the ceremony. I got my dress second hand. I’m going to buy my decor seasonally. And we’re still working on cutting down on guest list.