Couples Shower

A family friend hosted a couples shower for us, and the invite list was mainly friends of our parents and a handful of our close friends and SOs, including most of the WP. we talked frankly with the hosts about how many people they were able to host which helped us whittle down the guest list. we also told the hosts and members of our WP not to bring gifts, since they'd already contributed a ton to us in planning other events for us, etc.

ETA we didn't open gifts at the shower because i have anxiety about that, it was really more like a cocktail party.

We're having one for one side of the family, so I'll report back w how it goes, but i don't think the etiquette really changes. It should still be those closest to you. In our case, that's about 50 to 60 people on my side of the family. Aunts, uncles, first cousins, select second cousins, great aunt and uncles, grandmas, other "distant" relatives, only a handful of friends. It's going to more of a casual backyard thing, so i think it'll be fun for everyone

We had a couples shower. it was not like a traditional bridal shower at all. we did not open gifts at the party. it was more like a cocktail party. it was definitely a lot bigger than a regular bridal shower because you invite everyone with their SO-- we had about 50 people.