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Just Said Yes April 2024

Couples getting married on April 21, 2024

Julissa, on May 25, 2020 at 10:13 PM Posted in Planning 0 6

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I have beef with one of my family members on my moms side of the family, I plan to invite everyone but him since I don’t feel comfortable around him. The thing is, his family thinks if one of them is invited all of them are and they have brought him to a few family parties in the past. How should I hint at them or tell them I don’t want him at my wedding? It’s supposed to be the happiest day of my life, right?

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Latest activity by Elizabeth, on May 26, 2020 at 6:48 PM

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Gen · on May 25, 2020 at 10:49 PM
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If you aren't getting married for another 4 years I would honestly wait to break the news to people that they aren't invited. You are just asking for 4 years of drama lol. Wait until it's time for invitations and I'm sure he'll figure it out.
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Just Said Yes April 2024
Julissa · on May 25, 2020 at 11:07 PM
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Lol well yeah I understand that, I’m just doing basic planning like who I would invite and the thought just kinda popped into my head, thanks for the advice )
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on May 26, 2020 at 12:51 AM
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You have a long ways to go but unless there’s a reason of personal safety, I don’t think inviting every family member EXCEPT one will fly. That’s going to cause issues.
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Michelle · on May 26, 2020 at 9:16 AM
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I agree, you should wait, and its not going to go over well to not invite only one family member.
My sisters boyfriend is a loser. My fiancé and I would have loved to just not have him there. I would have loved to just be like, “nope he’s not welcome, due to his past behaviour” but I can’t do that. It is not worth creating issues in the family. I decided to say nothing and hope that he would decide on his own maybe lol
Well its a year later, and guess who is not coming hahaha all his choice. So it worked out. We played nice, invited him cause it’s just hurtful not to, and it all just ended up the way I wanted anyway.
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Kate · on May 26, 2020 at 10:04 AM
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I would give it some time. 4 years is a really, really long ways away and things can certainly change between now & then.
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Elizabeth · on May 26, 2020 at 6:48 PM
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Four years is a very, very long time - wedding planning this far in advance is really not advisable. Normally you specify exactly who is invited on the inner envelope of the invitations.
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