Counseling?

Yes it can help I am in it also but we are in a stand still because a few things that we needs to handle. And to then get back to it and get it finished up because we don't have time to find another officiant to marry us. But I think that my FH has a lil bit of cold feet in our first 2 sessions were great and she asked him and he said no. But if he does its completely understandable because this is both of our first marriage. It can also help to get anything that maybe on each other minds or have doubts to talk it over and to find some new tools. On how to deal with some situations and resolve them in a respectable way. I hope that he will give it a tries. And for my to continue good luck

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I appreciate this. Hope you guys can work out things.

View Quoted Comment Thank you and for you as well

I think it’s really helpful and a great way to strengthen the foundation of your relationship before heading into marriage. My fiancé and I did our first round of premarital counseling last year with an elder at our church. He’s also a friend of ours and we value the love and commitment that is present in his own relationship with his family. It was great to read through the book, Saving Your Marriage Before it Starts by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott. We met about every 2 weeks and discussed the chapter. Reading the chapter together as a couple beforehand was also helpful and brought a lot of good discussion. There are workbooks, too. Even if you know someone very, very well, I believe you can still benefit from premarital counseling. We had another round of premarital counseling this year with our pastor, and that was helpful as well. Counseling also gave us an opportunity to grow closer to two individuals at our church, pastor and elder, and have a greater support system as we move forward into the next chapter in our lives. I highly recommend it!

Perhaps your future spouse considers it individual counseling or that going means there are problems to start? However, marriage counseling is more directed on how you both will work together in your marriage. It is not traditional therapy. I would recommend it for everyone for healthy discussions, positive strategies for team work, and to just get into a marriage-focused headspace, particularly when wedding planning can distract you from the commitment at hand. Best wishes.