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Alejandra
Super November 2021

Could we still have a bridal shower?

Alejandra, on November 12, 2019 at 11:06 AM Posted in Planning 0 8
My mom and my bridesmaids are currently planning my bridal shower. My insurance expires next month, and I cannot get insurance through my job. My fiancé is trying to figure out if we can add me to his at his job. It looks like we may be able to, but he wants to double check the requirements with HR. If not, we’ll be having a small civil ceremony in January. Just our parents and siblings.

If we do that, I know it’s traditional to not have a bridal shower. However, we would want to proceed as if we are still planning what we originally wanted. We would call our ceremony a bow renewal, but we want to keep the bridal shower and rehearsal dinner and possibly a bridal party party lol. We would tell all our guests we are already married.

Would you give anyone the side eye if you knew the circumstances and they still had a bridal shower?

8 Comments

Latest activity by Lady, on November 12, 2019 at 2:11 PM
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    Master January 2015
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    I wouldn't bat an eye at a bridal shower under those circumstances. You're still a bride! I think you should still have the shower as long as your mom and bridesmaids still want to host one for you Smiley smile

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  • Nicole
    Devoted November 2019
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    I would totally understand and respect your decision to sign some papers earlier, and attend your bridal shower with a gift!

    This is a know your crowd thing, how do you think your family and friends will feel?

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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    I think as long as everyone knows and still wants to participate, a shower is fine given the circumstances.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    As long as everyone is aware that you're already married and wants to participate, I don't see the issue.

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    Expert September 2022
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    I totally agree with Amber on this one! You are still a bride - you’ll just get officially married a little bit before you originally thought, and then celebrate with everyone as originally planned! Totally valid reason, and I don’t see why anyone would have a problem with this. Smiley smile
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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
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    Honestly, I wouldn’t even care if someone in your position married semi-secretly before the big wedding. I don’t think you need to not tell people, but if it comes to that, I also don’t think it needs to steal the thunder from your wedding day that’s planned. I wouldn’t be offended if I found that out after the fact. Anyone who’s looked over an insurance statement would be heartless to argue that. So go ahead with your planning as it is now, and if you have to have the legal ceremony for your health, so be it.
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  • Jennifer
    VIP August 2021
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    I think it is fine to proceed as normal! Now you'll have two special days to celebrate forever! Smiley smile

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    As long as everyone knows you are already married and you're not "tricking" them just so you can have the pre-wedding parties, I think it's totally fine!

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