Corsages and boutonnieres

I think that's a very personal decision. You could have them walk in the processional to honor them and skip the corsages and bouts.

Agree with the above post. I’m not buying them for my grandparents.

We skipped them for grandparents. We also had a ton of grandparents due to divorce and stepparents and it was where we chose to draw the line.

Definitely a personal decision. Whatever you decide just make sure it's equal across the board.

We ended up skipping corsages for our parents because my mom and FH's mom didn't really care about having them (personally I think wrist corsages are kind of itchy and awkward, and pin corsages require putting a hole in a dress), so we decided to save a little money and not bother. I asked both of them first if they wanted one, and neither one felt it was important. My FH's dad will have a boutionneire though. If we had any grandparents present, we wouldn't be doing flowers for them.

I didn’t even do coursages for *parents* ...so I think it’s fine if you opt out. Definitely a personal decision but I don’t think it is bad or disrespectful or anything not to do it.

Thank you so much for your advice everyone! I think I may opt out!

We also decided against it. We’re not doing them for parents or grandparents - but, they will be a part of the processional.

Something I copied from friends from an area it is common, was having few or no corsages . Lots of women, including many MOB and Grandmothers, do not wear old fashioned heavy fabrics, or dresses with jackets, as they used to. And with silky fabrics that are damaged by pinholes, or the weight of a flower pulling, plus the embarrassment of perhaps needing someone to reach in the shoulder area of the dress. And that is if there is any place on the bodice e it will go. The more youthful dresses are barer, or more fitted, these days. And wrist corsages become annoying fast. Bouts or corsages often cost $18-45. ... Some people, inc my friends, simply order from a bulk flowers place. Get fifty to a hundred of a suitable flower for $80-$150. No fancy bouquets, which are time consuming. But a small vase, with 1-5 stems, at each honored mother, grand, or godmother's place, is easy to set out. Catering staff will do it it you have a seating chart you mark. Cheap vases are under a dollar. Or you can rent 15 for $10 but ks. And many venues or restaurants have a closet full, if you ask. Try to get the cost under $5 apiece. They don't have to worry about it on their dress, it is in front of them all evening at the table, and they can take it home. And no issues if they have to put on a coat or jacket between the ceremony and the venue. Ask a couple of your honored women. I was prepared to do either, whatever the woman preferred. 100%little bouquet or single step in a vase at table. My mom bought one of the metallic ink pens that write on glass and put wedding stuff on ours, cheap personalizing, but not necessary. Or you can do a 1 inch x 2 inch card and a thin curly ribbon . Look at bulk flowers costs. If you are choosing one flower for your whole wedding, bouts are very little work, though more than sticking a couple flowers in a vase. I looked at our florist's, then several others. 18 times $30 , or $540, was outrageous to me for just corsages and bouts. One bunch of bulk flowers, plus venue had vases so $3 worth of curly ribbon on the vases, cost $140 for 80 stems, sprays of greenery for bouts though that is not needed. Inc. Shipping . And we had flower wire, almost forgot

I am skipping grandparents. If they want one they are more then welcome to get their own. I am trying to have lost cost on flowers.

I’m skipping them for everyone except the wedding party. Got a lot of sets of parents, step-parents, grandparents, etc. We ran it by most of them and they could not have cared less. Told us to save the $.

I had the same dilemma because I’m blessed to have a lot of grandparents as well. I decided not to do it to save on cost. I may make my on little something for them if I have time

We are skipping grandparents. Mine have passed on and I am not that close to my step dad's family and FH isn't that close to his grandmother either.

Personal decision. I debated this too I decided just do my grandmother.

My recommendation is to do flowers for all, or not do flowers at all. That way no one feels left out.

It really depends on your budget and if you can include the extra cost. It's really your call.

Best of Luck!

Terri

Hey! Corsages are a different story, but boutonnieres are really easy to make! Give it a quick google search & theres lots of resources! And I don't mean "if youre crafty you can maybe get the hang of it", I mean they're truly really easy! Morning of my future sister in laws wedding, I popped down to the local grocery store, grabbed some greens, babys breath, and another fun bundle, and had asked the woman ordering flowers for the wedding to order me some extra roses before hand. While doing hair and make up about 4 of us just sat and chatted and made boutonnieres, probably took us 45 min to an hour just sitting there not rushing at all, and the total cost I estimated to be about $3.50 a piece.

Now, that being said I don't think you need to do it at all, esp. for that many grandparents, I'm sure they'll understand the situation and why you didn't, but just wanted to point it out in case you decide to

We're only doing them for the actual wedding party ourselves.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for your help everyone!

There's also the option to buy or make cheaper or smaller corsages/boutonnieres for grandparents than what you are giving the others. Maybe a single flower or something instead of more intricate designs.