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Just Said Yes March 2020

Coronavirus- Wedding 3.21.20

Esther, on March 13, 2020 at 7:31 PM Posted in Planning 0 15

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Hi everyone,
My wedding was scheduled to happen next Saturday, the 21st, in Brooklyn. On Wednesday night, after a long conversation and many tears, my fiance and I decided to cancel our wedding. On Thursday, we began the long and draining process of canceling an event. It’s now Friday and we’re not completely out of this logistical nightmare of dealing with vendors and trying to understand contracts, but at the very least all friends and family have been incredibly understanding and also grateful that we didn’t ask them to choose between attending our wedding and potential exposure to any harm. As you can imagine, we are both very sad and heartbroken but no one could have predicted this. It’s no one’s fault this is happening. When there was still the potential of not cancelling a few days ago, I kept searching for news on other couples that were going through a similar situation of having to make an immediate decision for a wedding happening this month. I didn’t find any. But I guess what I was searching for was some reassurance that we weren’t the only ones going through this. I never post anything but If this post helps anyone, I’ll gladly talk more details if anyone has specific questions. Like I said, we’re still dealing with the logistics and haven’t had the proper time to emotionally deal with the situation, but as soon as everything clears up, we know we need to give ourselves some time to grieve properly, cry it out as much as we might need, and try to find some peace and strength in order to let go of all the expectations and ideas we had of our special day. We know we’ll get there. Hope everyone out there stays safe and healthy.

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Latest activity by Nicole, on March 14, 2020 at 8:43 AM

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Neeva · on March 13, 2020 at 7:52 PM
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We are here for you! If you are looking for others who have been going through the same thing, read through these forums! You are definitely not alone.
Best of luck to you!
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Sara · on March 13, 2020 at 8:06 PM
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Oh gosh I'm so sorry. Was there any chance of them allowing you to push it out or is that not an option for you and your fiance either. Most vendors will tell you to just postpone so you dont lose deposit. This must have been such a hard decision to make, I feel for you. And I'm getting worried that my beginning of may wedding may be in jeopardy as well. We would have to make our decision closer to the end of april tho... hopefully you guys can find an alternative to getting happily married ❤❤❤
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Kathryn · on March 13, 2020 at 8:24 PM
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Definitely not alone girl. We postponed our 4/4 wedding because we couldn't justify putting people through the travel and stress. Right now, no one would be able to enjoy the day. My FH and I are upset, but at the end of the day we don't want to risk our families. Not with Dallas already being a hot zone. We're going to go with our original date, and I feel a great amount of peace.
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Lauren · on March 13, 2020 at 8:39 PM
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We are also having this conversation now. Did you choose a new date or cancel all together? We are date planning now in the case of postponement.
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Erin · on March 13, 2020 at 8:48 PM
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I feel so bad for you! Our wedding tasting was going to be the same day, and late tonight we got word that is was cancelled. This is just such an unprecedented situation that no one knows how to proceed. I hope you find a resolution that leads to a happy marriage and you get your awesome wedding!
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Emily · on March 13, 2020 at 9:02 PM
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You're doing what feels right and will hopefully keep more of your friends and family safe in the long run. It's a very tough and brave decision.
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Amanda · on March 13, 2020 at 9:25 PM
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Love to you! Ours is March 27 and we’re wondering the same thing.
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Melle · on March 14, 2020 at 12:22 AM
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Aw I’m sorry I hope everything works out for you though, girl
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Gabi · on March 14, 2020 at 12:32 AM
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My wedding was supposed to be next weekend also. So close, only a week away. But today we had to make the call to postpone after emotional turmoil. I’m still a wreck, having to break the news over and over again to loved ones breaks my heart every time.

Thinking of you, and hope you can find/make light in this dark situation. We plan on still having a small, intimate ceremony and having a proper celebration towards the end of the year. Anyone else still planning on a small ceremony?
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Don · on March 14, 2020 at 1:23 AM
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Hi Ester,
Hugs and kisses,💕🌹 as painful as it must be, you're doing the right thing, they say this will get a bit worse before it gets better, your glorious wedding is only delayed!
You'll be a stunning bride!!!!!
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Esther · on March 14, 2020 at 1:49 AM
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Thanks for all the lovely messages! It really is helping to hear the support and love from friends and family, but also even you all who sympathize and can understand what we’re going through. Thank you, I really appreciate it. Just to answer a few questions: most vendors have been offering postponement options with varying time frames, such as holding onto payments for up to 1 even 2 years from our date; right now, I personally don’t have the emotional or mental bandwidth to think about choosing a new date, partly because we don’t know what can happen come 1 month from now or longer; today my fiance and I were talking about wanting to put on my dress and his suit, get as done up as we can at home and simply say our vows that we had already prepared, to each other at home. we wanted a way to still hold our original date in some kind of meaningful way in which we can remember it beyond this virus and the need to cancel. We do not live in the same state as either of our parents or family, so holding something small right now is not an option, unfortunately. But we think with this small but meaningful act, we can help us move past the disappointment a bit and remember the importance of wanting to celebrate our love. He and I have been together for 8.5 years so neither one of us is going anywhere anytime soon, but we value the significance of voicing our love and continued commitment to each other for the rest of our lives. It’s such a “through thick and thin” moment.
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Gabi · on March 14, 2020 at 2:28 AM
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This is lovely. congrats on your love! ❤️
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Cassie · on March 14, 2020 at 3:30 AM
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My wedding was planned for March 21st as well and tonight we have made the decision to postpone. I can barely say it out loud I just can’t believe this situation is real. I haven’t begun the process of telling all my guests. It’s comforting to know I’m not alone, but wish we were weren’t all going through this. You got this, we all got this.
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Rebecca · on March 14, 2020 at 3:53 AM
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I'm so sorry.
I live in the area, and I'm watching all of my own industries get shut down. It's so hard.
This is so, so difficult, but this is the right thing to do. You're protecting yourself and your families, as well as all the vendors and staff at the venue.
Hopefully, you can simply postpone and all your careful planning won't be completely lost.
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Nicole · on March 14, 2020 at 8:43 AM
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I'm in the same position, with the same date. I'm going to start calling vendors and guests today. I'm scarred if I cancel of losing all the money we've spent . It's such a horrible situation.
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