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Just Said Yes March 2021

Coronavirus postponing wedding

Lauren, on March 25, 2020 at 10:54 AM Posted in Planning 0 5

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Hi all! We are getting married in July in NY (huge hotspot for the virus right now), which still does give us time to make some decisions on postponing wedding due to the coronavirus. Our issues are not only about being in the center of the coronavirus in the country, our other concerns are the grooms father lives out of the country and we are concerned there would still
Be a travel ban...next our concern is that my fiancé might start to lose any income because his work has temporarily closed and if they won’t reopen soon he will lose pay. And we are not sure how long that could be for. With all this being said, we have discussed postponing our wedding for a few more months but can still possibly get hit hard financially since his income is up in the air. My BIG question is, we sent save the dates out to 150 guests, but if we decide to postpone and make the guest list much smaller (say just close friends and family-that would help tremendously with the financially situation we are in now) BUT-I have read that is a huge no no since we sent the std out already. Does etiquette just go out the window at this point w the world pandemic? Do you think people would understand? I know some will suggest getting married in another year but I am against that as I am an older bride and want to start working on a family as soon as possible and waiting another year just for a wedding and possibly missing my opportunity to have a family doesn’t make any sense to me. Cancelling the wedding also doesn’t make sense as we paid $15,000 in deposits already. Please help! Any advice is appreciated!

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Latest activity by Natalie, on March 26, 2020 at 9:41 PM

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Neeva · on March 25, 2020 at 11:15 AM
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I think most people will understand if you change it to just close family & friends given the pandemic. If you have a wedding website you listed on your save the dates you could write a section on watching the virus closely and will let guests know if you plans change.
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Lauren · on March 25, 2020 at 11:16 AM
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Thank you. I think I agree that most will understand. Also I’m sure people have much more important things to think about right now than our wedding lol!
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· on March 25, 2020 at 11:27 AM
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You could also postpone the reception and turn it into a different kind of party next year when you can invite everyone, but still get married in a (much) smaller ceremony on your original date.
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Melle · on March 26, 2020 at 7:10 PM
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I think it's ok to decrease your guest list since at this point in time so many things were affected by the pandemic. i'm sure people will more than understand.
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Natalie · on March 26, 2020 at 9:41 PM
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First - please know that I and MANY others are right here with you. This is completely out of our control and is something none of us, even the best planners, could have ever prepared for.
Our wedding is planned for June 13, 2020 as well and while that seems far enough out to not have to postpone - with all the uncertainty and information rapidly changing on a daily basis, I can't help but be overwhelmed with stress and anxiety. I've already had to cancel by bridal shower and am sure my bach is out of the question at this point too.
Here in CA, we have a "Shelter in Place" ordinance in effect through April 19th with the possibility to extend further to May if our situation here does not improve. Our venue has had to cancel and postpone weddings that were planned through April 19th. My heart ACHES for those couples.
Prior to the "Shelter in Place" ordinance taking place, our venue sent us an email stating that if we choose to move our date we will not be charged a "transfer fee" but new dates are subject to new pricing if applicable. If we choose to push to 2021 then we will incur their 2021 pricing which has greatly increased.
We are hoping late April will offer more clarity for the future of 2020. I personally hope that the stringent requirements will help slow the spread and allow us to continue our future weddings as planned.
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