Coronavirus and Postponement - Another Post

So after my FH got home, we sat down and had a rough talk. We've been trying to stay positive and wait and see, but it's starting to feel very selfish for us to go ahead with the wedding as planned. His mother alone would be going through a lot of stress and risk, and she is currently recovering from an infection that sent her to ER. That alone is terrifying. His brother might not be able to get his domestic flight, and even if he does? He would be miserable and tense.



We had a heart to heart. Being married is important to us, and we want to have our families there. As it stands, anyone who does come would be terrified the whole time while travelling and attending, not enjoying the day we have planned. So honestly, we might just suck it up and admit defeat. As soon as I explained my thoughts, my FH got upset...then realized I was right. The world is shutting down right now. We'd rather our family not be upset about missing us and instead focus on staying healthy.
So our current plan is to see what day we can get tomorrow. Then close to the 4th, we'll dress up and go to the courthouse, get our license finalized. So we'll be married, which is the important part for us. Whether my mom can be there or not, we're going to leave that planning. I might have a bouquet of lillies and roses, we might elope closer to the date. At least this way we'll make sure everyone will be safe and we'll still have what was most important to us.
The actual vow renewal will be later in the year. Not sure when - we're going to talk to vendors tomorrow. But it feels much better having this decided. A huge relief to not be sobbing over each new headline. We are currently planning to cancel our honeymoon as well. Now we can focus on postponing and replanning. And hey, maybe more people will show up this time around.
I can't say what each bride should do. I do say it's an extremely hard and personal decision. I hope we can move things and focus on just staying healthy. I think it might be a relief to our vendors too. Deep breaths ladies. We'll get through this too.