Coronavirus and May 30, 2020

We're May 23rd. Taking it one day at a time.

Looks like our dates are just beyond that window of time that the CDC said "no gatherings of 50 people or larger for 8 weeks" so we'll just have to see what happens then. We don't know if this is going to get better or worse.

At this point, we're still going as planned unless our vendors and venue decide to cancel on us. But if they're still good to go when our date comes around, we're still going to get married that day. We invited 75, but only 41 have RSVP'd right now.

May 15. Just barely outside of the 8 week window, and we only have 40 guests attending, but most of them will travel by plane to attend. I feel I'm in the opposite boat as many. I'm merely discussing other options if things don't start turning around in the next few weeks and our parents insist we keep things as planned. I'm looking forward to my wedding day, and we're leaning towards a courthouse ceremony on that date at the very least, but I am taking self-isolation very seriously and would hold so much guilt if one of my guests got sick on the way to our wedding, then transmitted it to everyone else attending. It hurts to think about the money lost, and the dreams squandered, but now is not the time to be selfish and indulgent. Mourn the loss of your big day, work with vendors for refunds or postponing. Celebrate another time. Don't let your big day be the thing that causes others to get sick and potentially die.

Nothing's cancelled yet, but we're definitely keeping an eye on things as April approaches. Good luck to all other spring brides!

I totally feel you!! I am barely starting the actual planning and contacting vendors etc... we are scheduled to have an engagement photoshoot and now the park we were thinking of going is closed until further notice 😔 and it also doesn’t help that Fiancé lives in FL while I am in NC so now that we need to travel more to move along with the planning, this happens and now I don’t even know if he’ll be able to come for our photoshoot 😭 this is just unbelievable. It sucks that is messing with a lot of weddings/honeymoons for a lot of couples.

View Quoted Comment Yeah its easier said then done to simple mourn the lost of the wedding when you have contracted for 200 people and spent well over 20k. Of course I dont want people to get sick and will do what we have to do but its not easy to just absorb such a huge potiential finacial loss. All we can do is pray it settles not just for the weddings but for everyone. Its calming in a sense to know your not alone.

I would suggest calling your venue and seeing what their future availability looks like, and when they think you need to make a postponement decision by. I’d also ask how much money you
d stand to recoup if you decide to postpone and can’t book a date with them.

Tiffany, I'm staying hopeful too that things will get better soon. My destination wedding is June 6th in Jamaica. I cried multiple times yesterday when the president said this could last until July or August but my FH calmed me down. We're going to keep our wedding as scheduled and won't make any cancellation decisions unless there is a travel ban that will keep us from traveling to the island or unless the venue and resorts there decide to shut down. So far, I have gotten so many supportive text messages from friends and family saying they are still coming. We know some people may panic and cancel and we're okay with that. I spoke with my travel agent last Friday and she believes this will all be over before June. She even said she is going to Jamaica with a group of other travel agents in two weeks and they have not cancelled their trip. So I'm staying prayerful and hopeful.

People not taking it seriously and continuing to travel in the next two weeks is exactly the thing that will lead to this not being over by May or June.

If ONE infected person comes to your event (whether they are showing symptoms or not) they are likely to spread to ALL of your guests, unless somehow you are able to maintain a 6ft distance rule. An event of 200 with ONE person carrying a disease that has a 3% fatality rate? That's an average of six fatalities from your wedding alone. Not to mention everyone departing, travelling, and carrying covid even further. It's not "brave" or "courageous" to keep plans as is. Whether or not this will be cleared by May is very unknown. China is just starting to clear up after two months of quarantine, and their testing/quarantine was much more successful than the US' has been. You need to start thinking of contingencies, whether or not you need to implement them.

View Quoted Comment I hear you. We have called all vendors and have been advised to hold dates a little while longer since our date is outside the CDC 8 week recommendation to keep events under 50 people. If that is extended into our weekend we will take appropriate changes. We also have backup dates in place. Right now I decided to stay calm and drink a glass of wine (or a few lol) and just mentally perpare. Like i said we will do what is nessessary but it still sucks!

View Quoted Comment Good luck girl! We will be praying together. I was in tears to because i put so much time and energy into planning. My Fiance had to calm me down and remind me the wedding is just a day but our marriage is a lifetime. It humbled me and reminded me as long as he is still going to be my husband everything else is irrelevant. BUT IT STILL SUCKS! Hope everything works out for you and stay safe!

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Good to hear! I've been extremely sensitive lately with it because we had a friend who went to a wedding 2/29, a guest there had it (but didn't know it), then she flew back for another wedding on 2/29 that I went to, with elderly guests, started showing symptoms a few days later. We're waiting for her results now, but if she had it then everyone got it since we were all hugging and touching each other. Since then we've all gone to work, conferences, met our other friends before we even knew she was sick or in contact with someone who unknowingly had it. That shows how easily it spreads, especially since we're so behind on testing.

Our wedding is scheduled May 30th as well. I just began reaching out to my venders to get a possible backup date in mind. I’m trying to wait two weeks or so before I pull the trigger but we have a lot of family traveling from the west coast and I feel like traveling will still be limited by May.


My main thing now is not being able to decide if I want to have a small ceremony on the original date, which currently our church is only doing weddings with a max of ten people. Or postpone both the ceremony and reception to a later date. Just when I envision my wedding I envision all our friends and family there. It’s hard to envision having it with basically no one at the actual wedding ceremony.

I think its naive to assume anything at this point. I understand we must keep hope, but we must also be realistic and prepare for the worst case scenario (postponement.) I am right here with you, except I am having to sort this out sooner.

Our wedding is planned for June 13, 2020 and while that seems far enough out to not have to postpone - with all the uncertainty and information rapidly changing on a daily basis, I can't help but be overwhelmed with stress and anxiety. I've already had to cancel by bridal shower and am sure my bach is out of the question at this point too.

Here in CA, we have a "Shelter in Place" ordinance in effect through April 19th with the possibility of that extending to May if our situation here does not improve. Our venue has had to cancel and postpone weddings that were planned through April. My heart ACHES for those couples.

We are hoping late April will offer more clarity for the future of 2020, however, what everyone needs to understand (myself included) is that even if things "calm down" soon, it doesn't mean people will be out of danger while in close proximity to one another. We never expect to have to make such a heartbreaking decision, however, it is not nearly as heartbreaking as the idea of putting our loved ones at risk.

My wedding is May 30 2020 also and we’re still hanging on the that date until further notice from the venue.. so stressful!!