Coordinated Dance Question

Personally it would make me uncomfortable to dance like this with anyone but my FH. Would I do it if the bride asked me to? Probably, but I’d feel anxious the entire time and I’d be extremely relieved once it was over.

You know your friends best. If you think they would be up for it, then go for it! Maybe that can also be your first dance with your husband if you feel uncomfortable asking your bridal party to coordinate? The focus is on those 2 characters anyway in this video. Also, how coordinated are your friends? I know synchronized movements are definitely not my strong suit lol.

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I'm imagining that they all line up after being announced and a song starts, we all do this once, and then the wedding party fades out, sits down, whatever, and it goes into our first dance. I'm stuck between "this is the greatest idea ever and I love it" and "omg I'd cry if someone made me do this at their wedding" hahaha.

I agree with PP. I am a professional dancer and I would feel kinda awkward doing this dance. If the bride asked for it of course I’d do it though! Maybe you could make it your first dance?

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True. I didn't really think about them being uncomfortable dancing with each other. They're pretty much all friends. Thanks for your insight!

View Quoted Comment What if instead of them fading out they could fade in? That way it gets people on the dance floor after your first dance?

Are all your bridesmaids/groomsmen in the same town? Do they have a lot of free time?

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1 lives an hour away, the rest are local

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It really depends on your group. We have a large group, it would never work to coordinate them getting together once so multiple times wouldn't work. I would be embarrassed to do this at a wedding, I'm not a dancer.

I wouldn’t do a coordinated dance even if the bride asked me to. I think it’s fine to ask, but don’t expect everyone to participate.

You posted several versions of this, "I hate asking people things that I feel like would make them uncomfortable." I think you should listen to your gut and not ask people to do that. It has a high probability of being a burden on your wedding party (the rehearsal time, performance anxiety, wanting to decline but feeling pressured to do it anyway, etc.) AND be awkward for your guests to watch.

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I think I agree with this 100%. I might get my FH to incorporate this into our first dance. He said he wouldn't mind doing it. That way its just us and we know what it's from but I don't have to subject anyone else to the embarrassment!

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I appreciate your honestly. I'm glad I asked in here first instead of asking the wedding party haha. I think I'm going to ask my FH if we can incorporate this into our first dance and not include the wedding party.

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We have 5 bm and 5 gm. My FH said he'd be fine doing this so I'm thinking that maybe we can just incorporate this into the first dance and not ask 10 other people to be involved?

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I think I'm going to try to incorporate this into the first dance and see where that goes.

I think incorporating in your first dance is a much better idea.

Do it do it do it!!!!!! I’m a die hard TVD fan too (watched the entire series 3x) I LOVE THIS SCENE. Who cares what others think! I wish I would’ve thought about doing something like this but I’m 2 weeks out so it’s a little too late lol

Btw if my best friend looked at me and said it’d make them so happy if I did a coordinated dance with them on their big day, I would do it hands down and put my best effort in to it ❤️ Good luck!

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I'm glad SOMEONE doesn't think I'm nuts hahahaha. My fh said he'd do it with me so I think we are going to take dance lessons and do it. I really want to do it to the song Hunger by Ross Copperman which is what Elena and Damon dance to when she goes into that coma. I couldn't tell you how many times I've watch the series honestly hahaha. Most of my bridesmaids are also die hard fans. I actually went to Georgia where they film it this past March and toured all the locations. It was AWESOME.

I am not a dancer, like it is bad and you would not want to see me trying lol so I would be mortified if I was asked to do any type of dance at a wedding and probably find every excuse to get out of being a part of the bridal party so that I wouldn't have to do it.

BUT...

You know your friends more than I do and they might be totally up for it. I would think they would all need to be local though and have a lot of free time to practice together. It definitely can't hurt to ask them. Good luck!!