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Cooking for reception?

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Bella, on February 4, 2016 at 5:47 PM

Okay I know this isn't the norm but I'm just wondering everyone's opinion. Nobody would be cooking the day of the wedding. It'd be a couple days before and it'd be stored then re-heated in the oven. My wedding is gonna be very rustic/country style. My fiance and my family are all country. I would have certain family members go set the food up while everyone is getting ready. I would get warmers/chaffing dishes to keep the food warm.

Food I want is: spiral ham and pulled pork sandwiches, mashed potato bar, macaroni and cheese(possibly bar, if i can think of stuff to go on it), corn on the cob, deviled eggs. After dinner we'll probably set out snack type foods like chips(is that tacky?), deli meat platters, fruits. And we'll have cake obviously.

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Just Said Yes January 2022
Sophia · on September 22, 2023 at 2:18 PM
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Also, both sides of our family have at least 8 aunts/uncles with tons of cousins. It being “being on me why anyone would self cater for multiple hundreds of people” is an exaggeration. OP isn’t having multiple hundreds. Both sides of my family have 8+ uncles/aunts and we have tons of cousins. Italian catholic and Guatemalan families. Not inviting family is culturally not an option. Some of our family’s entire social network and therefore social events revolve around their family. They’re working and constantly and deserve some respite with their loved ones for life affirming events like weddings. Please take the idea of weddings needing to cost 10k+ out of you ingrained beliefs. You could have so much more fun and be so much closer with family if you weren’t having to sweat these non existent capitalist wedding “rules”. You owe your family a chance to celebrate you. Not a dollar amount per person for all the pre determined “have-to-haves” these wedding blogs push so hard on working class people.
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Just Said Yes January 2022
Sophia · on September 22, 2023 at 2:22 PM
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I hope you read the last two replies I added to this post and have some compassion and rethink what weddings are about and what enjoying themselves means.
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Rockstar December 2022
Michelle · on September 22, 2023 at 6:09 PM
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This is a super old thread so you will get more relevant responses by making a new post.
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Just Said Yes January 2022
Sophia · on September 23, 2023 at 12:46 AM
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Thank you for your response. I honestly can’t be bothered to start a new thread. I was googling tips for cooking for my own wedding - this was a tom result. I wanted to take real people’s experiences from a place like a forum where I could get lots of perspectives.

This thread had the most replies and I was so disappointed in the lack of different points of view and experiences. This website and the community it cultivates is selling a certain idea of what wedding and family are. I don’t want to explain and advocate into a void for my family and friends and what we care about.
Based on these responses and promoted wedding services, I’m not the kind of person this website is for. I sincerely hope weddings become more about the people and relationships by the time my children consider getting married themselves.
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