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Contagious Bride

Tina, on March 11, 2020 at 9:36 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 38
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Hi y’all, so I’m supposed to be flying to the east coast this weekend for a wedding... I just found out the bride has been sick with a fever for the last 4 days and is planning on continuing with the wedding despite dr saying she is contagious (they don’t know what she has, not the flu and didn’t test for corona) I’m not trying to get sick myself... do I still go and just avoid the bride? What’s the best protocol

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Latest activity by Allison, on March 16, 2020 at 7:54 AM
  • Melle
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    Melle ·
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    I don’t know if there’s a way to REALLY avoid the bride if you get what I mean because she could interact with others whom could interact with you. If you really don’t feel comfortable just say you can’t go and send a gift in lieu or something.
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  • Dominique
    Devoted June 2020
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    That's a tough one. You would think she would be considerate of her guest. If they don't know what she has they definitely should of tested her for the Coronavirus.
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    Tina ·
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    Unfortunately, protocol isn’t for everyone to get tested for corona, only the severely ill and elderly despite not knowing what illness you may have. I don’t want to get a fever after the wedding or anything, I can’t miss any work! I’m torn as to what to do
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  • Britnie
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    I would seriously avoid it. It’s not worth your health.
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    Tina ·
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    Is this acceptable even in I’m part of the wedding party? I’m so torn
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  • Dominique
    Devoted June 2020
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    Yeah but they're making it such a big deal they should make it protocol. If you don't feel comfortable don't go...
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    I totally agree!! I think they should be testing everyone that goes to the dr tbh, if they really are trying to contain it. My issues currently is that I have to fly (cancel hotel,flight,rental) and I’m part of the wedding party :/
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  • Britnie
    Savvy September 2020
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    Hunny it’s your life at stake. I honestly wouldn’t travel anywhere right now! No matter the reason. I don’t even know why we are allowed to travel. Everyone stay put so this can pass over.
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  • Dominique
    Devoted June 2020
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    If you're apart of the wedding I would go. The media is really making the Coronavirus bigger than what it is. Keep some hand sanitizer on you wear a face mask on the plane. Show up for the bride Tina.
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  • Eshell
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    I would keep away !
    Are you in the wedding ????v
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    Tina ·
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    Yes I am :/ that’s the hardest part
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  • Danielle
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    I would but i work in healthcare so I'm not worried. lol

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  • Crystal
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    I think you need to also remember the hardest part of this illness is you’re going to be exposed to it by people who don’t show symptoms. If you’re a young person in good health, I think you’ll be ok. If you’re older with an immune disorder or any of the other risk factors I’d stay home.


    It won’t be an easy call. But if you have risk factors, I think any bride (especially those who pick you as a bridesmaid) would understand.
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  • Anna
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    I would go. Just tell her since she is sick you want to keep a distance.
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  • N
    Dedicated July 2020
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    Oh my gosh yes thank you. We all really need to get some sense. Would anyone think differently if the bride said she’d had the flu? Or showed up other wedding with a cold? No. If you’re not in poor health and a healthy adult the symptoms are so minor as most people don’t even realize they had it. Which is why containment is security theater at best. I can’t imagine missing a loved ones wedding because I’m afraid I might get a head cold!


    I’m also pretty annoyed because my wedding is in 3.5 weeks so all this mass hysteria is really making me so sad and frustrated.
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  • Nikki
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    I honestly think it’s selfish that the bride is continuing the wedding knowing that she is contagious and that there is an epidemic going on. Sure, it’s possible she doesn’t have it, but would you really want to risk spreading it to what, 100+ guests? I personally wouldn’t go, even though I’m in great health. It is not fair to risk spreading it to other unsuspecting passengers in the airport, on the plane, and general people just trying to live their daily life where they can pass it on to another unsuspecting elderly person. You can be a carrier without showing symptoms


    I understand she’s invested a lot of money into her wedding and doesn’t want to postpone, but I’m sure her vendors would force her to cancel or postpone if they knew she’s been that sick amongst the outbreak, and it’s irresponsible if no one is going to tell them it’s a possibility. That should be a risk they have to consent to. She could probably get sued for it
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  • Dominique
    Devoted June 2020
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    Don't let it get to you, everything is going to be perfect for your day🤗 My wedding is in 9 days🥰
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    This is how I feel! Not necessarily my health is at risk, but transmitting an illness to a grandparent or someone with a weak immune system. Or just spreading illness in general Smiley sad
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  • Sylessia
    Dedicated March 2020
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    If you are worried about getting sick and getting someone else sick like someone with a compromised immune system then don’t go. Let the bride know that you can’t be in attendance and do what’s best for you.
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    A fever for 4 days that isn't flu? That doesn't sound good. Even if you end up surviving an infection, you could still inadvertently spread it to other people, esp while you're on a plane. My heart goes out to you and the bride, but this is how epidemics happen.


    We're in a country with not enough tests, many people don't have healthcare, a large geographic area, and a government that is not taking this seriously. Many are responding with panic and racism rather than reason. The cold or flu doesn't have the kill rate of COVID 19. The cold or flu has never spread as quickly or stealthily as coronavirus. As individuals, we have to do what we can to contain this.
    If you didn't have to fly, you had the ability to self quarantine if need be, AND you would not be in close proximity with vulnerable people, I'd say go and suck it up, you'll live. But because you have to fly, which is probably just as bad as being on a cruise ship, you're putting others at risk if you go.
    I am so sorry you are going through this, and I feel terrible for the bride. I do feel this is bigger than the two of you. Best of luck.
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