Confusion help

I think we need a little more info. To what did she accuse her? Was it something big? Are you sure that it isnt true or just believe you would know if it were true. Have you confronted her to get to the root of why she made the accusation? Is she just a miserable gossip, not like your fiance, or something else. Could she have passed along bad info which came from someone else. Does she even know you are upset about it? It's hard to judge her character without breaking down the what and why for yourself. Also complicated because this is a cousin you cant just drop out of your life like a friend. I'll tell you that my sister lived with my FH and I when we first moved into together and things got really really bad between them and I had to force her to leave. She bad mouthed him to my family and wouldnt stop holding a grudge until I told my family I will no longer attend family functions with her unless she changed her behavior toward him. My parents were not having that. It was almost like it turned on a dime. We were waiting for the other shoe to drop but it has only become better and better. He initially didnt trust her to stand up as one if my bridesmaids but I know she was hurt when I had only asked my friend to be my maid of honor. She was really happy to be asked and while part of him doesn't want her to be involved, he is supporting it. Point is that it was bad enough that a police report was nearly filed and now she is part of our wedding party. Things change over time and as people get to know each other better. Figure out what's going on and make sure that your MOH supports the union (not just you). Good luck.

View Quoted Comment I was with my fiance and my cousin during the time she accused her for something she didnt do. My fiance didnt do what my cousin said.. i love my cousin but lately tension has been high and I just don't know if I want the drama to continue and ruin my wedding. Idk maybe I'm over thinking but it hurts that she accused her of something that is bigger than anything and it's even worse that I was there and fiance didnt do it

If she has accused/disrespected your fiancé over something she didn’t do than I say that your cousin should no longer be your MOH. If having her stand with you through all the wedding stuff is worth the stress it may put on your relationship with your spouse, than keep her in but if not... than don’t add extra drama by having her carry the title

That's really vague so it's really hard to answer it. It all depends on what it is and if you and your fiancé can move past it. If there's a lot of tension, I'd just spend some time away from your cousin and give everyone some breathing room. Maybe things will cool down. You still have a little over a year and you never know how things will turn out

I agree it's a little too vague. Do you think your cousin accused your fiance for bad reasons? Or could it have been a misunderstanding or mistake? Has your cousin apologized or realized she is wrong? Kicking out a MOH or BM is never favorable but family moreso. Consider if you guys can get past the accusation and frustration.

Still really vauge but if you are still upset and there's tension over the cousin Is say drop her from MOH.