Confused by wedding invite I received

I've received many wedding invitations with registry lists. They don't bother me.

If it's one day after yours, I wouldn't go. Trust me - you'll be tired and want to spend a day holed up with your new husband.

But I would call before RSVPing for two. She might not have seen the STD and might not have know your FH's name. If he didn't help write the invite, then she might have gone on info given to her.

Have you talked to FH about going to a wedding the day after yours? I'm sure they'd understand if you declined.

If you're both up for going, I'd just ask if you're both invited since his name isn't explicitly on there. If they confirm you can RSVP. If not, there's no way in hell I'd go the day after my wedding without my new husband.

I would ask (don't meet rudeness with rudeness). It could just be a mistake. Of course if she says he isn't invited, I wouldn't attend.

Does the rsvp have any indication of how many seats are for your party?

FH said we could go. We're staying with my parents the night after our wedding so it's not like we'll be alone anyways.

No the RSVP doesn't give any indication. I don't have to reply until 5/1 so maybe I'll think about it awhile and ask him about FH attending if we decide we do want to go.

I would rsvp for both you and your husband- if they have a problem with it, they'll let you know

^ what FutureMrsK said

why would they send the invites now?

What FutureMrsK said is why lots of people hate RSVPs. Don't RSVP for someone not invited! However yes she is in the wrong to not have your FH on there.

Honestly, YOU WILL BE SO TIRED! You don't think so now but you will be exhausted. DH and I declined a wedding a week after ours and I am glad we did because we were drained the first 3 days after, then had to go to work and by the weekend we were drained again.

I would ask. A few years ago i received an invite addressed only to me. i was a little irked...FH and i werent engaged yet but we had been together 5 years and I had to travel 10 hours for this wedding so I was planning on declining if i couldnt bring my bf. i complained to my best friend (not the bride) and she told me to look in the envelope again bc in hers there was a seperate piece of paper inviting her FH. glad i looked, because sure enough there was a slip of paper the size of a fortune cookie fortune that said "feel free to bring Andrew!" stuck in one of the folds.

moral of the story: this is why we list all invited guests on the invite.

I know this is not really the question you asked but...

I would not want to go to a wedding the day after mine. And I highly doubt they will be attending your wedding the day before theirs. I think you should just decline.

I would RSVP for both. And in the meantime, reach out to your cousin and clarify?

Definitely call and ask rather than just RSVPing for someone not on the invite. There are a ton of posts on here about just that very topic and how rude it is to RSVP for someone not officially invited. While, yes, it would be horribly rude for them not to invite your FH it is still possible they did just that and you can't really bring someone they didn't invite. At that point your best option would be to decline.

Before you call or RSVP or anything, I would first really think about attending a wedding that's the day after your's, especially for a cousin you aren't close to.

Then, if you both are on the same page on going, I would call and ask before RSVPing. They may say no.