Hi everyone, I'm looking for some advice. I was asked to be a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding about a year ago and I said yes. Since saying yes, I feel like the friendship has been very one sided. Recently, we went to breakfast since she was in town and she mentioned she needed to talk to me about something but then she forgot what it was about. A couple days later, over facetime, she asked me to step down as a bridesmaid so she can have her little sister stand by her side, as it was important for her to have her there. She told me that she wouldn't know for sure I wasn't going to be a bridesmaid until the week of the wedding, which is in April, and that I am still invited to the bridal shower and bachelorette coming up.
A little bit of background: I had a small wedding last year (20 people) so mine and my husbands grandparents would be safe with COVID still around, and it was most important to us that we had them there. I know it upset a lot of people that we did it this way but I tried explaining everything as best I could. We love our extended family and friends, but we did what we felt was best during the time. This year we're planning a vow renewal and reception to celebrate with everyone.
This is where things started to get rocky with my friend. She was upset that I wasn't waiting until covid was over and could have a big ceremony in the first place. When I was discussing possible dates for our vow renewal, I wanted to keep it around a year anniversary (we were married April 24, 2021), she tried telling me I couldn't do it any weekend in April. She told me that she was "getting married for the first time in April" and then going on her honeymoon and then her birthday was the 30th, but she wanted me to have it on a weekend she could go because she wouldn't get married without me in attendance. Since then, things have been one sided and all she wants to talk about is her wedding and new house and anything about her. I'm torn because she was a really good friend but things have changed and I'm hurt that there wasn't a real explanation as to why she is asking me to possibly step down as a bridesmaid. She lives about 4 hours away so meeting in person isn't an option with busy work schedules, and anytime she calls I get anxious to talk about it. I know it needs to happen soon since April isn't far away. I'm not excited for her like I used to be and I don't want to spend all of this money on things for her wedding to be asked to sit it out last minute. Has anyone else gone through something similar? Or does anyone have any advice?
