Confused about going to this wedding

I wouldn't attend. You have to work the next morning, it's a decent drive, you don't know this person, you don't even know if you're invited to the actual wedding. Hard pass for me.

Hey there! I can see your confusion. Your guy's co-worker definitely should of given y'all a physical invitation with more information. If I were you, I'd ask your guy to get more information. However, I will try to answer your questions as best as I can.

Is that also the known as reception? I believe so. It sounds like he is inviting you to the reception and not the ceremony.

Should we bring a wedding card? Gift if so like what,? Yes, I would still take a wedding card with a cash gift enclosed. The amount depends on your personal finances. It doesn't sound like y'all are terribly close, so IMO $20 - $40 would be plenty.

Should I see if I can get it off work? Again, that is up to you and how much you want to drink / party. 1 hr and 20 minutes isn't too far, but far enough I'd consider getting a hotel room after a party like a wedding reception.

What should we wear? I would wear something semi-formalish. Him: Button up shirt, tie, and a pair of slacks. You: A nice summer dress, or slacks and blouse.

Okay...I still wouldn't attend without a formal invitation.

I agree.

Unless his coworker and future wife are superrrrr informal and just throwing a shin-dig and not a wedding, I would insist on a formal invitation. Your fiance can ask if they are sending formal invitations. If they are and you don't get one, you aren't invited...

Yeah I would probably not attend because.

1. If you don't know them and your FH doesn't speak to them outside of work I feel like that would just be awkward.

2. I wouldn't call off work or drive that far so I could attend a wedding I wasn't really wanting to go to.

3. Also if they didn't give you an invitation that gave you an idea of any of the questions you are asking I would definitely pass.

4. You don't know them well enough to already know the answers to these questions.

I drove like an hour to go to a friend's wedding and the only person I knew was the bride and it was very awkward. I couldn't imagine going to a wedding where I knew nobody.

I would want an actual invitation before I put time and effort into picking out what to wear, figuring out how to get there, determining if I needed to take off work, bringing a gift, etc.

It sounds like he might just be inviting you guys to the after party, not the ceremony & reception? Can your fiance email or call him and ask specifics like attire?

It sounds casual to me. I would probably wear a comfy sundress.

You are under no obligation to attend this party, especially since they don't socialize outside of work. If it sounds like fun, go, and bring a small gift or a card with cash/check. But if you don't go, given that your man is this guy's supervisor at work, it would still be nice to send a card and gift/cash with congratulations.