Conflicting dates (think post got lost?)

You said you get it but he can’t be mad. He actually can feel however he wants to feel. Wouldn’t you be upset if all of your friends weren’t attending your wedding because of someone else’s? These things happen and it’s no ones fault but that doesn’t mean he can’t be hurt. Hopefully they’ll be able to visit or you guys can visit them at some other point.

I agree with Sarah. He can be upset that his friends won't be attending his wedding. I would be upset about it too.

I mean that's on them... He can be upset but he has no grounds to be upset with y'all. You guys did pick your date first, right? If it's SUPER important to them they can move theirs. I wouldn't give it second though honestly.

View Quoted Comment Yes we picked our date in January and he just picked his yesterday. I'm not saying he is not allowed to be upset but he literally made his wedding the day before ours and lives 8 hours away. If he was in the same town it wouldn't be an issue. It's not like our date was a surprise

View Quoted Comment I'm not saying he isnt allowed to be upset, but when you live 8 hours away in a different state and set his date a day before another friends wedding in the same friend group, its not like everyone not being able to make it is a shocker. My thing is if he wanted everyone to be there he would have set another date. We had our date set before he even got engaged. Again, he has a right to his feelings but he knew when our wedding was

View Quoted Comment It sounds like it is an important date to him and his fiancee as it is their dating anniversary, but you selected that date first. I would just let it go. He knows his friends can't attend so that is his decision to go ahead without them. If he wanted them to be able to attend he would have picked a different date. There is no need for you to stress over this. Focus on your own wedding rather than a friend of your husband's who it sounds like he has never actually met.

That's a tricky situation to be in. But the reality is, if you had your date picked and a place booked before they announced their date, you guys are not to blame and really shouldn't feel bad. If he knew the guys would be in your wedding, it's out of your control. I would think if he knew about your wedding before booking his own, he should have inquired about the date (even if just out of curiosity ) just to see when it would be in reference to his own. It's definitely a tough situation, but don't feel bad. You have nothing to feel bad about! Maybe they can figure out a time they can all get together after the weddings to meet up and hang out?

View Quoted Comment Thank you. My FH suggested maybe they go to each others bachelor parties to at least celebrate together. They're men so I'm sure I think it's more of a big deal than it actually is lol

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That's a great idea... go to each other's bachelor parties! Then they can still celebrate together. I think we as women always think things are a bigger deal than they are, haha. Especially when it comes to weddings! Either way, I'm glad the friends will be there for him.