Conflict between 2 friends getting married in the same month

Might I add, we live in Fresno California and have a lot of the same friends. So this is a destination wedding for all of us.

Ah, I didn't understand why you would be upset until reading the last update. It's unfortunate because it likely means that some friends will have to choose which wedding to attend if it is a destination wedding... but... it does happen, and there's not much that can be done about it. Personally- I would feel a little disappointed with the timing but I would not be upset with the friend.

It's a shame as people will have to choose, but then that may well have applied if they'd got married anytime within about 6 months or more depending on how expensive the trip will be and how much time people will have to take off work. They may have very good reasons for picking October. Just be happy for them!

That does suck, but she unfortunately it's her right to choose. I would get the Save-the-Dates out now. :-)

I would be pissed. My friend jokingly told me they were gonna have their wedding the Sunday after ours and I was instantly mad. Get the save the dates out! Like yesterday!

Good thing she is getting married after you and not before. Send out those save the dates and invites before she does. Crazy! Why would she do that? Doesn't make sense.

She's gonna be pretty disappointed when your friends attend your wedding and not hers!

I totally appreciate everyone's opinion! I was never "mad" but I told both of them when I first found out that I was "annoyed" by it. So now she's trash talking me to everyone! Lol! So guess they're not getting a save the date!!! I swear weddings bring out some kinda crazy in people!

Hi fellow Fresno-ian! I am in Reedley/Dinuba!

I think I'd be annoyed because of the distance. I wouldnt want to drive there, have my wedding, drive back, finally settle into married life, then turn around and drive back for another wedding. I would probably decline THEIR invite and attend yours if I was a guest.

Thats a lot of time AND money.

As for your situation. I would be annoyed. My friend and I are getting married a week apart but we dont have a lot of the same friends anymore, so there wont be a lot of overlapping guests.

Could you talk to her? Maybe when she realizes that several people are going to have to choose between the two weddings, she might reconsider.

Hm...I don't think she realized what she did. In her defense she is probably confused why you are mad especially since you suggested Las Vegas to her. I am sorry I think you are partly to blame for this. It would have been better if you point out the obvious (which may not be to her) that it is a destination wedding and friends would have to choose so the wedding should be spaced out more. Don't get me wrong, I am definitely on your side but she may be innocently ignorant of the obvious.

I agreed with everyone else get those save the dates out pronto! You are actually behind the power curve. I have been to a ton of weddings in the last couple of years and the rule of thumb is if it is a destination wedding or if the wedding falls on a holiday weekend, you are supposed to send it out AT LEAST one year prior.

Date twin!

She can pick whatever date she wants. But in my opinion it was kind of dumb to pick 2 weeks after yours, people are going to pick between the 2 since they will not want to travel twice.

I agree to get your save the dates out ASAP if you haven't!

The save dates are being delivered on Monday! I asked this question on here because she is telling people I'm so selfish for being annoyed by this? I told her about Vegas because I could really get her a huge discount and I thought I was being a friend and trying to help?! But to book it 2 weeks after mine is Not what I had in mind. I guess I just needed some validation because this situation has caused a huge divide amongst my group of friends and it's really sad. This is suppose to be a happy time for both of us!

I think you were nice enough to help her get a discount and she was not very smart for planning her wedding two weeks after yours especially with you both having the same friends. They will now have to pick who's wedding they want to attend. I would be annoyed by this as well. Sorry hun.

I agree with EricaTx. Get your Save the Dates out NOW! I had a few people I know ask why I had mine out so soon (about 12 months before) and then my FH's cousin announced she was getting married two weeks before us on the other side of the country and a friend announced his wedding for two weeks after. I can't even tell you how thankful I am that we had our Save the Dates out before everyone else figured out what they were doing.