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Comparing Wedding to Others

TealWedding, on August 20, 2017 at 8:08 PM Posted in Planning 0 8

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I try to never compare my life to others. My body, my relationship, the way I live my life. It makes for a more peaceful life I think. But my FH and FSIL have a close childhood friend who lives close by who is getting married 3 weeks after us. She posts stuff on social media about the wedding all the time, I don't. It's been hard for me not to compare our wedding decor, vendors, dresses, etc. Anyone have wisdom on this? We are using wine bottles as the table markers, she just posted to social media they are doing the same thing. At least we are before them?

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Latest activity by OnCloudCrutcher, on August 21, 2017 at 1:32 AM

Master September 2017
RaeGin · on August 20, 2017 at 8:12 PM
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"Comparison is the thief of joy". I get what you're saying, and I'm in an almost identical situation. You just have to know that your day is going to be special and unique to you two, even if there are similar elements.
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StPaulGal · on August 20, 2017 at 8:20 PM
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I would just remind myself that *nothing* is unique. Any given Saturday, there will be literally hundreds of weddings happening across the city/state/country/world with wine bottle centerpieces. Any choice you make will have been made countless times before you and is sure to be made countless times after you.
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Super September 2017
TealWedding · on August 20, 2017 at 9:01 PM
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That's true. Trying to be solely unique and independent from everyone else is unachievable. That's a good thing to remember. Thank you both!
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mtall912 · on August 20, 2017 at 9:03 PM
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Just unfollow her and then you don't have to see it at all
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Candace-Marie · on August 20, 2017 at 10:14 PM
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Stop looking at their posts. Focus on what you want...and if you are (not sure) stop sharing your ideas. For my wedding its all us, our ideas and personalities. I don't know if another wedding/reception will be better, maybe it will, maybe not. I don't care since it will be what we (FH and I) have decided. Focus on what the two of you want and own it, live it and love it.
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Kathleen Smith · on August 20, 2017 at 10:18 PM
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The most profound and wonderful piece of advice that I keep close to my heart is

"Comparison is the thief of joy."

Celia Milton, here on WW, gave this advice to a bride. It has been life changing for me.
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Hahnsolo · on August 20, 2017 at 10:20 PM
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Weddings aren't pissing contest. Don't treat it as such.... rolls eyes
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Expert September 2017
OnCloudCrutcher · on August 21, 2017 at 1:32 AM
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I can understand. I have a friend that's getting married the same day I am. I just remind myself we are two different people and the thing I've learned from this app is that nothing is original. There are going to be similarities and some things that will be different. What's going to matter at the end is YOUR day and how you want things to go.
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